How to bring up ttc?

[bopit123]

Hi

Im new here so be nice please :-)

Im 27 and am starting to see babies everywhere. I feel so ready to start a family but not sure how the bf will feel and not sure how to bring it up. We have been together nearly 3 years, hes a year younger than me, we've lived together nearly 2 years (my house), both have good jobs. Seems perfect except I can see him thinking we're too young. I disagree, my entire family had early menopause and I want 2 kids with a decent gap between. So now is kind of the right time

How do I bring it up? Without scaring him ideally

Thankd

I say eek and I'm nervous because I know he wants children but when he's older, 30 ish. Ive always told him I want two by 30 but talking about it seriously could be a shock as I dont know whether he thought I was joking before.

Im a bank robber......only kidding, just worked since I was 15 and always saved hard. Have a good job now and life in a cheap area :-)

Good luck OP. Better to be honest and find out how he's feeling then agree on a compromise perhaps and know where you stand - rather than waste the next few years wondering!

sinke its not casual sexism. Its fact that women become very open to financial abuse when they have a child, especially since prior to children they usually earn approximately the same money as their partner. Then suddenly that drops to SMP. Some men expect the woman to keep herself and buy everything for baby and contribute to the household bills out of that SMP whilst they have a jolly old time with all their previous earnings.

Even after mat leave, it is fairly common for one partner to take reduced hours (thus reduced income), usually the woman. This again can leave the woman (or man if he takes the reduced hours) vulnerable to financial abuse.

That's why the finances are the most important part to discuss and set down rules for, especially if money is kept separate prior to children and not joint.