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Feeling down

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 12:29

Just had a bit of a meltdown last night and wondered if anyone else can relate? I'm usually such a happy, positive person but do have my rare down moments, but last night it all got a bit much, I was in floods of tears and had to get DH to come home (he works away). Nothing in particular triggered it but I'm still not feeling happy. I just felt totally stressed, tired and hopeless. I'm 23 weeks now, and so happy about the pregnancy and everything is going well. Is it just hormones or do I need to speak to midwife about it? Any tips to cheer me up??

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TheHermitCrab · 29/10/2014 13:33

I've been like this through my whole pregnancy so can really relate (It was a happy planned pregnancy)

I would mention it to your midwife and hopefully they have a better system in place than mine.

History of depression and pnd in my family, and they have a little tick box thing to fill out in my appointments that asks if I'm feeling low and whatnot... despite the fact I always tell them I'm feeling like shit...etc and they tick the boxes saying "yes yes yes" the only response I have had is "Oh but you seem such a happy person!" And no further support was mentioned...

It's always best to note it, even if you were just having a flappy, hormone moment! xx

HulaHoopsInTheBath · 29/10/2014 13:36

Sounds like hormones to me. I went through a period of time when I was in tears pretty much every night once my DD was in bed. Not to say it isn't worth speaking to your m/w if you are worried it might be something more or if your mood doesn't lift.

For me a good dinner (NOT cooked by me) a bar of chocolate (any) and a Tom Hardy film helps, but everyone is different!

I am 30 weeks now and OH says more scatty than emotional these days.

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 13:42

Thanks Hermit. They asked me if I was stressed or anxious at my booking appointment but didn't mention anything as it's kind of par for the course with new house and new job. That's exactly the reaction I had from my best friend when I mentioned my down moments to her, 'but you always seem so happy!' Only DH ever really sees them, and I have to put on a bubbly, happy persona for work. Got a couple of weeks before my next appointment so I'll see how it goes. Hope you're ok too

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 13:45

Thanks HulaHoops, scatty is normal for me so that would be an improvement! ?? that's reassuring that it's improved for you and chocolate helps!

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TheHermitCrab · 29/10/2014 13:50

I'd just mention it because it can't do any harm not to. I'm the same, only my OH see's my down moments.

Just moved house, I've been really poorly, done my neck in, work is getting to my and everything just piles up til I'm sat on the loo crying because the loo roll ran out! haha And my other half is like "what's wrong" and I'm saying "The loo roll... it always runs out... etc"

Clearly the loo roll is not the problem and I'm having a mini breakdown/hormone surge haha!

Us women ay? ;)

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 13:55

Oh Hermit, you're making me feel so much better! The final straw that set me off last night was having left my purse at home so I couldn't buy milk. When I rang DH he said make yourself a nice cup of tea, that set me off again as I explained I couldn't as we had no milk!

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TheHermitCrab · 29/10/2014 14:01

Haha, you've gotta laugh haven't you? Or you'll cry ;) Which we inevitably end up doing! ;)

dayspringjubilee · 29/10/2014 15:35

I almost combusted yesterday when someone else used MY coffee cup at work - I refuse to drink out of the office mugs as they "feel dirty" - one of my colleagues took pity on me and tracked it down. Also, my baked potato for lunch was AWFUL and I've gone off the mince in my MIL's shepherd's pie and I'm constipated and...well, there were tears. I'm recognising hormones I haven't experienced since I was 14! What would I do without Flipper's kicks and turns to cheer me up??

thechinaclogs · 29/10/2014 15:55

Oh my goodness I'm so relieved to read your last post dayspringjubilee. Earlier today I flew completely off the handle because my colleague used the word "tragic" in an email (luckily I'm working from home so he wasn't there to witness my fury). About an hour ago I forced my poor husband out of the room by shouting at him for breathing near me! A few minutes later I heard him on the phone and said angrily to myself "I wish he would just shut up". He mentioned something about making me eggs earlier but I honestly know I would throw them at him if he did, even though he has done nothing to me!
I think it's natural to feel like this some days, just as it was when we were going through puberty. Just remember it's hormones and they will pass - it's definitely not forever. In the meantime I'm going to go for a walk, buy myself some flowers and come home to a hot shower and an early night. Maybe there's something similar that will cheer you up? Take care.

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 15:58

Uh oh dayspring. I can have my slight OCD moments too so I totally sympathise! Maybe that's it, we're all turning into teenagers again

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Nuttynortherner · 29/10/2014 16:11

Here's some more flowers china, hope your early night cheers you up. I'm hoping a bit of retail therapy might help me, thanks for the tips

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thechinaclogs · 30/10/2014 12:45

Aw thank you, some for you too . Hope you feel better today

N1982 · 30/10/2014 12:50

I would say hormones but mention to midwife as they will reassure you and take all support available. Pregnancy isn't an easy ride x

Cirsium · 30/10/2014 12:56

I'm 25 weeks and had a meltdown to DH over the phone a couple of nights ago as someone at his work had brought in a car seat for us, second one we've been given, and he was telling me how great it was when all I could think was but we now have two that don't go with the buggy!

We're moving house in 10 days, I'm self employed and working for several Clients which makes my week very complicated, we have horrible neighbours and I think with hormones on top I just needed a good cry and rant. He was lovely and I'm still tired but feeling better.

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