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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 28/10/2014 07:42

I found out recently I am pregnant and according to my GP I'm about seven weeks gone which is so early. I do a job that can be quite physical and where there's a high risk of being assaulted. I was prepared to just try and chance it and do my best to avoid a violent situation for as long as I can but I've now been told I'm going to have to do some training in the next couple of weeks which is pretty physical ( running, jumping, punching and a load of blokes who don't understand what a touch drill is). I know I'm probably going to have to tell my line manager but I am petrified that there will be something wrong when I go for my scan and my whole team will end up knowing. I guess I know what I am going to have to do but I'm scared I'll jinx the little one by telling people. Guess I'm just looking for some reassurance

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3pigsinblanketsandasausagerole · 28/10/2014 07:44

You need to tell work

For What it's worth we told people including work about all three of our pregnancies and where not cursed as a result

LetThereBeCupcakes · 28/10/2014 07:45

Your LM should keep the information quiet, it's just between you and him / her. It's the best thing to do in this situation.

If it makes you feel better, I bought our travel system when I was 7 weeks PG. DS is a healthy, happy 21 month old now.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Turquoisetamborine · 28/10/2014 07:55

Tell you manager, you must. My cousin is a prison officer and has to tell her boss as soon as the second line appears. The women then get moved to admin duties so it's very obvious. It's very common though as lots of women in 20s & 30s.

m33r · 28/10/2014 07:55

I told my boss at 6weeks because we have a big project on what would be my due date month and I couldn't lie to him. He was brilliant. I'm now 19+5.

Congratulations!

pippinleaf · 28/10/2014 08:00

You're more likely to cause harm by not saying anything. I found it of comfort to think that there was nothing I could do to change things either way. It's a scary time but the odds are on your side by a long way. Congratulations and good luck x

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 28/10/2014 08:02

Thank you all. I'm just so worried. All my managers are male and it is quite a macho environment. None of the other women have been pregnant in my team and it's going to be so obvious. I'll just have to bite the bullet and stop being so silly, whatever will be will still be regardless if when I tell people.

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OhMjh · 28/10/2014 08:15

You'd kick yourself if something happened to the baby because you didn't speak up - if they treat you differently, then you can cross that bridge when you come to it! I had the same at my job and told my manager the day I found out I was pregnant (4 weeks)because of it being a physical , and it made it so much easier and I didn't have to worry about pushing myself to prove a point.

GeorgiexXx · 28/10/2014 08:16

I'm a police officer and I told my line manager at 8 weeks. My team all guessed as soon as I was put on restricted duties. I told everyone that I wouldn't be announcing it until after my scan and they were all really good at keeping quiet. I'm now 38 weeks and just waiting for little one to arrive. Good luck :-)

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 28/10/2014 08:18

Georgie I actually work in response team for the net. Did they put you in restricted straight away?

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 28/10/2014 08:19

Stupid autocorrect- that should say the Met

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Cerealchanger · 28/10/2014 08:28

I'm a response officer in the met too and I told them immediately. They put me on restricted straight away so everyone guessed. The risk of something happening was just not worth it

GeorgiexXx · 28/10/2014 08:36

I'm response in North Yorkshire. With it being a small force there weren't really any office jobs they could put me in. So I just went out in plain clothes taking statements and doing the appointment car. I used to be in the met and I know that the mister units/duties offices were generally filled with pregnant women :-)

GeorgiexXx · 28/10/2014 08:49

*misper

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 28/10/2014 08:59

Haha I'd love to be moved to the Misper unit

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MissHobart · 28/10/2014 10:05

I'm CSI, I told at 7 weeks, removed from nights/half nights and certain jobs, still in uniform in a marked van though, we're the only department that keeps people out and about I think. Best to tell for health and safety, not ideal I didn't want to say anything for as long as possible due to 3 previous mc but due to the work had no choice really!

silverfishlondon · 28/10/2014 21:51

I told my boss at 5 weeks as work in environmental with potential hazards. It took me a week from getting the positive test to pluck up the courage to tell her, and in that time I once knowingly was exposed to something I should avoid as I wouldn't have been able to back out without letting on. Still regret it.

Once I'd told boss and manager we were able to make subtle changes which didnt make the rest of the team suspicious until I was ready to tell them at 8 weeks.

We had a private early scan at 8 weeks, and felt happy to tell people after that. Perhaps that's something you could do? I'm in London and found a place to get one done at short notice. Although you can certainty still miscarry after 8 weeks the risks are much lower, down to 2% I believe, which ment we were happy to go public.

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