Hi Im new to mumsnet and have lots of things that I'd like some advice about if anyone can offer it to me! I dont really want to discuss this with friends and family so this seems like the place for me Let me give you the low down on my situation...
Im almost 38 and have 4 children all grown up by a previous relationship. I have a newish husband of 5 years and have always wanted a baby with him, but the time has never been right. I'm now thinking will the time ever be right? My biological clock is ticking and I dont want to put off having a baby just because of the time not being just perfect, as in reality it never will be and I dont want to regret this in years to come.
My husband has never expressed to wanting a baby I always ask him he always says no, but I told him he has to make up his mind for sure as I am at an age where I think my time is running out for having a baby and Im fed up with asking him! So anyhow he said yes he wants a baby, I felt all happy as deep down I think Ive wanted this for ages. Im really worried about lots of things now though...
I have a coil the hormone merena type, Ive not had any bleeding since Ive had it for 6 years. So could this have made me infertile? Are my chances of getting pregnant slim now? When I have it out will I have to wait 6 months before trying as then by the time I get pregnant if I am able to I will be 39 or 40 and the risks to the baby increases doesnt it? Its been so long since I had a baby (15 years) that everything seems to have changed - when do I stop with the caffine before or during - should I take folic acid now? Im so confused I should be an expert after 4 children but now Im just really scared...