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Would you move house with less than 9 weeks to due date?

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Pinewood · 02/10/2006 16:49

I'm having a bit of a quandry we have been luckily enough to have been offered a 2 bedroom Council House in exchange for our 2 bedroom maisonette (haven't been to view inside yet but outside looks OK.)
I am due on 2nd December but likely to be induced early. About 8 1/2 years ago moved house to here when I was seven months pregnant and long story but ended up loosing the baby at full term (for no apparent medical reason) This makes me really nervous about saying yes to the exchange - opinions please

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PollyParanoia · 02/10/2006 17:14

I moved when about 28 weeks pregnant and I think it was a load easier to move before rather than after the birth. A friend of mine only found the house she wanted to buy when over 30 weeks pregnant and still managed to move.
However, everyone's different and I can completely understand why you're worried given the awful thing that happened to you. Why don't you talk to your m/w and doctor? Is there anyway you can take a total backseat in the move. I know I did too much (packing books etc) and if I did it again I'd use pregnancy as excuse to do absolutely f all.
Good luck, Pol

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Pinewood · 02/10/2006 17:38

Hi Pol thanks for the reply. Yes, if it's the one for us then we can expect a hand from family etc. Great suggestion I'm seeing my doctor this week so I will have a word and see what she thinks?

A friend suggested I could ask the Council to postpone the move until after the baby is born so I'm sure it's OK first but I think that is pretty unlikely to happen! I wonder if anyone has experience of moving home with a newborn?

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SenoraPostrophe · 02/10/2006 17:39

well, at least you'll get out of all the lifting!

SSSandy · 02/10/2006 17:46

Without your sad history I would have said, yes go ahead and do the move before the baby is there because with a newborn you will initally have absolutely no time or energy for anything else. However, with your sad history, I am not sure I would risk it. Only if someone else is doing all the packing, unpacking and dealing with handymen and removers and everything. If it can't all be taken of your hands, I wouldn't do it I don't think.

However, wait till you've seen the interior and what does dh think of it all?

Gem13 · 02/10/2006 18:07

I moved 8 weeks before the birth of my second child and it was fine.

We hired movers who moved us (but we packed) and DH was a star with the cleaning and unpacking.

My main complaint was that we slept on a mattress on the floor for a fortnight while we waited for a bed (the old one was chucked rather than moved) and our heating system was so high tech we couldn't figure how to work it properly for 2 weeks. This was mid December too!

I would move before rather than after and take it very easy. Get everyone who can to help and make sure you say 'no' to anything tiring.

monkey · 02/10/2006 18:11

I emigrated at this stage! It'll be fine. Something to take your mind off the last few weeks if nothing else

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Pinewood · 02/10/2006 18:13

Thanks guys. Would get out of the lifting as my hips are quite bad already!

DH is really undecided what to do, and worries as this is already stressing me out as you can imagine! He knows he would be doing the bulk of the work too and we would have to hire a van/lorry to move ourselves.

He's torn as he loves where we are at the moment and we have done loads to the maisonette to improve it. If we didn't have to go downstairs with our DS everytime he wants to play in our garden we would probably be staying put! DH said lets have a good look at the inside and then decide. Well here's waiting for the phone call as the Council haven't got the keys back from their workmen yet - hopefully this week! I will keep you posted.

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Piffle · 02/10/2006 18:13

Yes but only if you have dh there for two weks afterwards to sort it out for you!
So sorry to hear about your rpevious loss, I can understnad your apprehension.

monkey · 02/10/2006 18:15

oops, so sorry, didn't read right to the end. How terrible. I can understand why you'd have 2nd thoughts. Could you accept it, then for the week around move (couple days before & few days after) go to stay with a friend and just come back and tada, it'll all be done for you? GIven the terrible loss you suffered I can't imagine anyone being not 100% behind the idea of you keeping out of the thick of it

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Pinewood · 04/10/2006 11:02

Hi just seen my doctor she said given my history and my hip is bad at the mo she really wouldn't recommend it.

However, we haven't seen the house yet as we are still waiting for the council to get the keys back! She said if we are going to go for it then she would suggest I try and stay out of the packing/unpacking etc and try and stay as stress free as possible ... yeh right! Mind you can rope in family with me under "Dr's orders"

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shedevil · 30/10/2006 22:18

Hiya, bit of a late-comer to this thread but hey!

Just wondered if you have decided whether to move or not? We moved when I had four weeks to go till DS was born, we were offered a council house from our one-bedroomed flat that was full of damp (so I bit their hand off, lol!) it was really stressful and the house was a complete dump as well, we worked all day then went to the house on a night to get it ready for the baby arriving. To make matters worse our flat was burgled as well (in the middle of the day when we were at work) god I have never felt so crap in all my life as I did then, I couldn't wait to get out of the flat.

Sorry this probably isn't helping you much I just wanted you to know that it is possible just try and get as many people to help you as you can and try not to get stressed out. Moving was the easy part for us, it was getting it all ready in 4 weeks that was the tough bit.

Highlander · 31/10/2006 15:59

we did, I was 34 weeks. Unfoirtunately I started bleeding on the day we moved so poor DH had to look after DS1 and do all the moving. Actually, unfortunate my arse....... I had a great time sitting with my feet up in hospital

SparklyGothKat · 31/10/2006 16:04

I did at 30 weeks, but I did go into premature labour a week later. Not sure if this was down to the move because I gave birth to my next child early too.
I did get out of the lifting though.. lol

divastrop · 31/10/2006 19:48

i moved when i was 35 weeks with ds2,and i did all the packing/unpacking,putting up curtains etc cos my exh was a lazy selfish git.ds2 was born 3 weeks later perfectly healthy.4 months after that i kicked xh out

hope everything is ok for you now

Dottydot · 31/10/2006 19:51

Sorry to hear about your loss previously. I moved when I was 36 weeks pregnant, but was lucky to have people on hand to do all the hard work. Is there any way the move could take place without you doing anything? So, someone else does all the packing and moving - you could go and stay somewhere else for a couple of days and move in when it's all there ready for you? Good luck.

intergalacticwerewolf · 31/10/2006 19:54

I moved at 30 weeks of pg due to us getting kicked out of our old flat because I was pregnant

It was great, I didn't lift a finger! I just made tea and looked pretty.

Ok then, I just made tea!

Pinewood, if you hve moved, or are about to, hope everything is ok. Don;t lift a finger - you have the perfect excuse not to!

worcestercaroline · 31/10/2006 20:46

I was selling my house and was doing weekly viewings which meant constant cleaning am pretty sure thats what brought babys arrival 3 weeks early. Sold house and had to move to temporary accomodation which was supposed to be for 3 weeks ended up being 4months.Finally moved again with 5month old baby, husband was away working so spent every night for 2 weeks un packing boxes for 5 hrs a night. I was knackered.I think which ever way round u do it it will be hard work but u must make sure if its before baby is born that u sit in a chair and just supervise, which is easier said than done. Hope u get it sorted

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Pinewood · 01/11/2006 06:57

Hi guys thanks for all the replies/advice. We went to have a look it at last week (they were putting in new bits kitchen/heating so took a while for the keys to come back) but saw my doctor again the morning before we had to give them an answer and she said "you know my opinion!!" my BP was up a bit too (unsurprisingly!)

The house was fine but boy did it need some work doing to it - elderly lady in there beforehand and workmen not too concerned about damaging the walls! Most of the room sizes were actually smaller than the maisonette we already have apart from it had a kitchen dinner! Also my DH couldn't take any time off work for at least two weeks as too many people away (he is the only one left in his Dept this week!) and they wanted us to move in in a week

So we had to make a difficult choice but chose to turn it down. On the positive side though our Housing Officer (who is a star!) checked with the allocations officer and confirmed that because we refused it due to medical advice we would not be right at the bottom of the waiting list! So here's hoping! Fingers X

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worcestercaroline · 01/11/2006 19:33

thats good news that u won't go to the bottom of the list. I hope something comes up for u and at the right time.xx

ja9 · 01/11/2006 19:39

fingers crossed 4 u pinewood. it's prob for best considering your horrible past experience

fwiw i moved house with 6 weeks to go (& city - 150 miles away) and then was due to move again with 1 week to go (had to be in temp accommodation for mth) as it happened ds came early and the second move was the day after i came out of hospital. it actually turned out fine. dh was great as was my mum and mil. they did all the unpacking etc whilst i just sat and cuddled ds in another room. in fact, i've joked since that i'd like 9mths notice before our next move so that i can arrange to have a new born again and so have other people do the entire move for me without feeling guilty!!

NattyandThomasandBump · 02/11/2006 11:12

i can uderstand why u sre worried. hope everything is ok keep us updated.
i moved when ds was 4 weeks, and that was hard, as i had had a section!
maybe hire help? so you are not lifting?

NattyandThomasandBump · 02/11/2006 11:12

i can uderstand why u sre worried. hope everything is ok keep us updated.
i moved when ds was 4 weeks, and that was hard, as i had had a section!
maybe hire help? so you are not lifting?

SophieB · 02/11/2006 13:12

Me and my partner moved into our house when i was 8 months, i have to admit before we moved in, it was very stressful, no thanks to the solicitors!! but on the day it was fine, we had lots of our friends helping us.

bossykate · 02/11/2006 13:19

I moved house at 37 weeks! I wouldn't recommend it but it is possible. Will your partner be around to help? You won't be able to lift heavy boxes and imho shouldn't be expected to do much unpacking etc.

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