Pregnant and alone

[KaziB01]

Hey ladies, although its lovely hearing stories from happy couples and families to be, I am also find it quite hard seeing having been left to do this alone.

I am finding the thought of going though pregnancy and being a single parent a difficult and lonely time and i wondered if there was anyone else going though the same thing and how you are coping with the strain?

I'm not alone but didn't want to just read and vanish.

Do you have a supportive family? A good circle of friends?

If it's any help I've know friends go it alone, for various reasons. I've also had friends who would have been better going it alone!

Congratulations by the way! X

thank you and congratulations to you too x

My parents are in their mid 70's having had me late in life and my dad is also quick ill with my mum being his primary carer. I have a very small circle of good friends but none of them are near by and they are all very busy with their own lives so i don't get to see them very often.

It's also difficult to be the needy one when everyone is so busy with their now stuff.

Its just extremely hard right now maybe as its still so raw

Awh bless - emotionally that must be really hard for you right now -however I wanted to kill my DP for most of this pregnancy so maybe in some small way you are better off

I would get involved with NCT and pregnancy yoga classes straight away -there is other pregnat women and new babies about to get you involved positively with your own pregnancy - most NCT groups have bumps and baby coffee mornings, just look up your local branch online - it's generally during working hours but could be worth making the effort if your work allows? Good luck and remember we are all here for you if you need a virtual helping hand.....

That does sounds really tough Kazi, I wish I had more useful advice.

I agree with Just though, lots of the people I spend more time with now I met through bump groups and alike. Not many of my friends (lovely as they are) have little ones and it's a very different way of life... even though baby isn't here yet.

Hopefully someone in a similar circumstance will reply too. It might be worth trying the relationship talk too? There are some wise folks in there and more people watching I think?

I did for my first pregnancy it's surprising how many are supportive if you let them know you would appreciate it.
Good luck

I have signed up for NCT and hope to meet some people though that although am also - not to sound mean but dreading seeing so many happy families. Also I am not sure where i am going to be living as everything so up in the air with my OH leaving and so the classes are in Surrey where we were supposed to be living and i am not sure if i will even be there any more. Although the classes where i am at the mo, which again i may not stay are mainly during working time and i wouldn't be able to attend them anyway.

Hi KaziB01,
while I am not completely alone, my other half is currently working abroad and I am doing the pregnancy on my own. I have no family nearby either.

When you get to the point of the antenatal classes check with your hospital. Mine offers girls only classes which should make it easier than being mixed in with the "happy couples".

Some of my friends from work have offered to go to scans with me, which actually amazed and surprised me a lot! I have done my scans on my own and was totally fine but I know some girls would be happier with a partner.

Any best of luck to you! I am sure you will be fine!