Anyone had children in their 40s and never miscarried?

[stubbornstains]

My heart is currently in my boots. I'm 40, 8 weeks pregnant, and terrified

. I recently discovered that a friend (aged 43) was pregnant, and 4 weeks further on than me. She had had a MMC 10 months ago, and was full of anticipation and hope as she was due to have her 12w scan in a few days. I've just received a message to say that she's lost her baby .

It's so, so sad, and so isolating- I can't talk to many friends, as of course few people knew that either she or I were pregnant.

There are also lots of sad stories on the TTC threads I've been on, and it's been playing on my mind.

This is such a horrible, isolating time- I feel totally exhausted, so am not getting out and seeing people that much, which is making me a bit depressed. I can't bear the thought that it might all be for nothing .

Please help cheer me up with lots of happy, positive stories of popping out loads of babies in your 40s with no problems whatsoever!

Please try not to worry. My nana had my mum and her twin at 40, my aunt had her 2 at 39 and 42. I had ds3 who is now nearly 3 at 42 and he was my biggest and healthiest baby. He's off the centile scale for height now and has been all along.

I was 39 when my wonderful boy was born. No miscarriages, thank god.And I even tested as low risk for Down Syndrome which was a total shock. I had assumed that based on age alone it would be high risk. Congrats and enjoy your pregnancy! I love being an older mom. I feel like it has freed me from some of the insanity and hysteria that all my friends who had babies younger and at the same time experienced.

36 DD1 and 42 DD2 no MC.

With DD2 Downs risk was 1:7000. Good luck wth your pg.

I was 38 when I had DD and I just had DS now at 41, no MCs. I think it is normal to worry when you are pregnant, for one reason or another...and then you worry even more when the baby arrives!

Hi I have three DC, the easiest pregnancy with no bleeding and so on, was the last when I turned 40 during the pregnancy. The birth was an induction, which lasted an 1.51 start to finish.

Having had 5 miscarriages myself and a DS at almost 38 and being 30 weeks pregnant with number 2 now at 40 I know loooooads about miscarriages (I'm researching them for work) and more often than not they are nothing to do with age whatsoever. An estimated one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and often years ago we wouldn't have known we were pregnant for some of these due to not being able to test early (although many miscarriages - even early ones - are also very painful and unmistakable). I know this doesn't sound very reassuring but I am trying to be reassuring in the way that it's often nothing to do with age. I know scores of women who've had anything from one to several miscarriages in their 20s and 30s and, amongst friends, plenty who've had successful pregnancies in their late 30s and early to mid 40s with no issues whatsoever. If it's 'just' a chromosomal miscarriage (ie not recurrent miscarriage that might turn out to be for another reason) often it's out of your hands no matter what age.

Stubborn, I can't thank u enough for posting the link to this thread on the old bird thread, it has really made me feel better & more able to enjoy this pregnancy xxx

I'm 40, 38 weeks pregnant and had no problems at all so far, first pregnancy. Where I am, women over 40 get extra growth scans, so had one at 28 and 32 weeks and midwife told me it's my prerogative as an older pregnant women to have another one so going again on Monday, just to check everything is ok. I have had a few medical professionals tell me that the standard practise is to induce at 40 weeks but I'm opting for monitoring (and hoping she's going to come a bit early).

I had an mc at 36 and one at 39. My DD came inbetween at 37 with no complications and low risk of downs. I am 40 and 22 weeks, no problems so far and risk of downs was 1 in 39000