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Strugghling with eating after past eating disorder

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sianilovesbeingamummy · 20/10/2014 08:51

I am currently 6weeks +4days pregnant and i am struggling with my diet. My past anorexia has always stayed with me in the back of my head and never really flared up with my previous 2 pregnancies however i fear it may be cropping up in this one! I am not sure if it is due to not wanting people to know until 14weeks or if it is the illness coming to light again. I have always been concious of my weight but each time i have fallen pregnant i have used it as an excuse to eat all the yummy things i never allow myself to usually! his time however i dont seem to be allowing myself what i want! If i eat too much it plays on my mind and i end up worrying myself to the extent where i am physically sick. At first i thought this was morning sickness and in all fairness in a morning it actually is as i havent eaten anything to worry myself about but throughout the day i will make myself whatever it is that i fancy but i will feel so full that i am actually sick, i must add that i do NOT make myself sick as i would never do anything to harm my unborn child, children are everything to me and i have always enjoyed being pregnant. This pregnancy was actually planned, my previous 2 were very happy unplanned pregnancies, not actually finding out i was pregnant with my second until 20weeks gone. With my first pregnancy i gained 4stone which by no means bothered me one bit and i was back to my per-pregnancy weight within a month to 6weeks, with my second i didnt gain much at all so it wasnt difficult to again return to my pre-pregnancy weight! This pregnancy however i am terrified of gaining 4stone again, i dont know why but i always get paranoid as to what people may say. People saying i "look well" in my mind means you have gained alot of weight. I know to some this may sound rediculous and part of me thinks i am being rediculous but i dont seem to be able to get my head around it this time! I havent had my booking in appointment as yet but i will be open and honest with my appointed midwife, who i am hoping will be the same one which took me through my previous pregnancies! Has anyone else suffered this and how did you get around it. I think once people know i will be in a better mind frame andi will do all i can to eat healthily and gain a decent amount of weight. According to the preg apps i should be gaining 40lbs in total as my weight is low at the moment and i have actually lost 2lbs in the last week which to me doesnt sound good as it now puts me at 7st10lbs. I am 29years old! 40lbs to me sounds daunting at the moment but i am hoping this will fade!

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skyra13 · 20/10/2014 09:32

Im the other end of the scale to you im classed as obese and sacred of gaining even more weight!

All I can say is eat healthy is your best option, its the best thing for you and for baby expesh the start of your pregnancy.

Try and enjoy it, this was planned embrace pregnancy its a time where you really can enjoy your self after the morning sickness has gone ofc, I really would just stop thinking about weight altogether and enjoy the changes your body makes and think how amazing it is growing that little one.

Once the morning sickness has passed I'm sure things will get back on track, 40lbs is alot but if you stick to a healthy diet your baby will get what it needs, you prob wont even put that weight on and alot of it is your body holding water.

Please don't worry and try any enjoy being pregnant again :)

quietlysuggests · 20/10/2014 09:45

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littlejohnnydory · 20/10/2014 10:04

What quietly says is absolutely right.

OhMjh · 20/10/2014 10:14

Not tons to say apart from I know what you're going through. I had inpatient treatment for my anorexia and bulimia and although this pregnancy has made me love my body/the things it can do, there have been days where I have struggled massively to look at myself in the mirror without crying. Please speak to your midwife and family about this - their support and love is essential in combatting this.

GaryShitpeas · 20/10/2014 10:19

Aww op I had similar with my second pregnancy. With my first pg I put on 3 stone and hated it. I have always had slight issues with food and weight and always like to be very slim

So I'm ashamed to say I actively dieted during my second pregnancy and only gained about 15lbs. I was just 8 1/2 stone the day I gave birth to her Sad during the pg I even got sent for extra growth scans as my bump was so tiny. I can't believe I put my beautiful dd at risk. She was, and is fine

But in my most recent pregnancy with dc3 I admitted my feelings to my midwife. And was amazed to find her sympathetic and supportive. For the sake of my baby I forced myself to be more sensible and ate healthily but made sure i ate enough and had treats etc. I gained about 25 lbs that time around which was the minimum I was meant to gain based on my height and starting weight but a lot better. again dc was fine

Talk to your midwife op. I think a lot of us feel like this, and if you want to chat more please pm me. Ps congrats on your pregnancy! 3 is great X

sianilovesbeingamummy · 20/10/2014 12:33

Thankyou all of you for your comments. I have my midwife appointment tomorrow which ihas put me at ease a little but i need to be sure to tell her about my concerns. Gary, i did exactly the same with my second and was having continuous growth scans, my little girl was born at 5lb and when they took her out, i had elec c-section they questioned my due date!!!! She is a very healthy, happy, cheeky 18month old but i do not want to go down the same road with this pregnancy. It is a constant worry and i should be getting my head around it, it is not about me, i can lose the weight after i have the baby, the most important thing now is that i have a healthy pregnancy and give my baby the best start. I know all this but it is hard sometimes. Thankyou again for you responses i think i need to stop worrying about what small minded people may say about my weight gain and enjoy the next 9months

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GaryShitpeas · 20/10/2014 12:41

I think the media messages don't help as well

Ie we are constantly bombarded with images of "celebs" either being lauded for their tiny neat bumps and snapping back into shape 2 mins after birth, or seeing women being made fun of about how "massive" they are in pregnancy, Kim kardashian was a good example Confused

It's shitty and I'm sure previous generations didnt feel the pressure we do

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