At what point did you feel like a mum?

[ladylala28]

Im 12 weeks with my first. I just had my scan and baby is ok and wouldnt stop moving lol
I thought seeing it might of made me feel like a mummy but not really. Im not having a great pregnancy with sciatica and sickness could that be whats holding me back from bonding with bump?
Any advice would be gratefully recieved

About 2 weeks after he was born, I had no real feelings till then. When I felt it, it hit me like a sledgehammer, still does 13 years later.

I din't know if many people feel like a Mum to a smudge on a screen, tbh. I didn't. I suspect you're asking a bit too much of yourself!

When I felt confident enough to take them out on my own. And when I was sicked on (proper food sick, not milky sick).

I didn't really feel anything towards my baby until about 29/30 weeks pregnant. I suspect it will take a while post-birth to feel like an actual mum.

I'm still waiting to feel like a mum - DD is a year old next month and #2 has been cooking for 13 weeks.

Don't get me wrong, I adore the bones of her and I would walk to the ends of the earth for her, but I don't feel like a parent? I just feel like me. I thought mummies and daddies were supposed to know everything in the world and I...don't.

Not 100% sure the 'I'm a mother' feeling really kicked in, I know it's there now dd is nearly 3 though (13 weeks with no 2). I don't really feel super parental but I feel like a mother although I can't really explain the distinction. That probably doesn't help much! I'm know that I didn't feel it until well after dd was born though but I didn't really know know I wasn't feeling it at first because I didn't know what it was meant to feel like.

Well none of the above makes much sense, sorry about that. I think what I'm trying to say is you won't know you're feeling it until you are already feeling it.

With ds not until he was born and 2 days later looked into my eyes.

Dd had hiccups at 12 week scan and i totally fell in love with her then! Shes due in november.

I don't know when it started either but it was definitely after she was born. I think it just grew as our bond grew. I had a rough pregnancy and didn't feel particularly close to her then. I remember midwives/HV's saying 'Mum' in the early days and having to consciously remember they were talking about me and not my own Mum!

my oldest is 2....
I sat in his pee for 10 mins while he got his hair cut yesterday after having an accident while sitting on my knee.

I made a sarong out of a scarf, worn it over the top of my jeans and walked home like that.

Then it hit me....I was covered in pee, in public, pushing a double pram, wearing sensible shoes.
I now feel like a mum

Oh dear hope its wasnt a cold day brrr mind might be worse a hot day smelly lol

DS is 10 and I STILL don't feel like a mum!

DS is 2 and a half and I'm 19 weeks with number 2.. I look at DS everyday and think "I'm really a mum?! Surely I'm not actually responsible for this little person"

The responsibility and worry makes me feel sick lol

The first time I drove the car alone with ds1 in it. The sense of responsibility just suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks. I remember thinking, 'am I actually allowed to do this alone? Fuck me, I'm not a grown up!' (I was 34).

Then the fear strikes, what if I make a mistake and break him?. You don't know fear until you become a parent. You'll know you're a parent when you feel the fear.

It's terrifying