Pregnant after mc

[Anon24]

Hi all

Myself and a very close friend both had miscarriages earlier this year. We were both expecting within weeks of each other and both lost our babies within weeks of each other..

Me and my partner were TTC for around 6 months. My friend was on the pill so pregnancy at first was a shock but she was very excited and pleased.

Me and my partner decided to try again after the advised time and we have fallen again.

I am now wondering how I tell my friend without causing too much pain and upset..

Hi Anon. Firstly, many congratulations! There is definitely life after miscarriage, so all the best to you.

In terms of telling your friend, I think you just try to pick a good moment and tell her. You sound like a sensitive, tactful person, and I'm sure you'll find a gentle way to tell her without bouncing around shouting "Yippee! Go me!"

You don't know how she will react - she may be thrilled for you, or she may (completely against her wishes) burst into tears, as much as she would like to be pleased for you. And if that's what happens, try not to feel guilty. Your pregnancy isn't the cause of her pain - it's not like you got pregnant to spite her!

It's OK for you to feel happy about your pregnancy, and it's OK for her to feel at least a little sad about it. If you're good friends, then you'll just be sensitive to each other - you'll keep a lid on your excitement for her, and she'll at least try to pretend to be happy for you. When you're ready to tell her, just tell her.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!! I'm also pregnant again after mc in July this year!! Your friend will be delighted for you, honestly!! Tell her and see what happens!!

We have decided this time to tell no one yet, (I'm 5wks) and very nervous!!

Good luck!! X

I think we will wait a while before telling people but I was just wondering on how to tell my friend.

I am sure she will be happy for us but it's just a difficult situation to be in for both of us

Hi Anon, congrats on your pregnancy. There's a wonderful thread in here about being pregnant after a mc. You should join us!
As for your friend, my brother dreaded telling me that his DW was pregnant as I had mc a couple of months before. Turns out, I could also share the news that I was pregnant again. Your friend knows you were trying & will be nothing but pleased for you..and you'd never know...maybe she'll have some news for you too!