Strangers are more helpful then own family

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Sorry if this post will sound like a rant! Maybe because it is one!

I don't understand the way my family acts!
This pregnancy was very good but the last couple weeks I'm suffering from pelvic gridle pain. Some days are good some not so!
I'm 38 weeks now with my second (first one is 13 month old)
I asked my mom on Friday to go grocery shopping with me as it is getting hard on my body! Anyway instead of her driving to the store she slipped into the passenger side even after me telling her that I can't drive because it is very uncomfortable for me. Just got an answer back "you are still young" (sounded like stop complaining you are just pregnant) then she constantly drove away with my son in the shopping Cart and I had to search her with my arms full of groceries!

Today I got a message from her asking if we want to come over to there place for lunch. Texted back that I can't walk today because the PGP is so bad today I can't even change my sons nappie because I can't lift him.
So I thought that she is going to be smart enough to bring us lunch so my husband doesn't have to go and get some take out!

A strange family that I don't know came by this morning to pick something up (as I had some vegetables from the garden to give away, didn't want them to go to waste) and the lady took some time yesterday and cooked us two big containers full of taco soup. (I had messaged yesterday saying that the vegetables are outside and she just has to grab them as I wasn't feeling good)

My point is that it hurts that strangers take time and cook a meal for us and my own mom who lives three miles away from us, doesn't even think about cooking us a meal!
It was my dads birthday recently and we couldn't go to their place to celebrate as I had one of those days again, and instead of bringing us a meal they were so mad at us for not coming that she didn't talk to me for almost a week

Ok I'm stopping now.. I'm just so hurt by her action!

I have pgp too, I'm now in crutches. I'm also getting zero sympathy from most folks as it seems like no one really knows this is a preg thing. Sympathies x

Oh I'm so sorry that you are now on crutches.
If it will continue like today and the baby won't come soon then i might be needing crutches too for the last couple days!

Don't let it hurt you, just don't exect anything.

Mine has no interest in my pregnancy. When I said I was due in seven weeks she said 'oh imagine that's when we will be putting up decorations. I can't wait to out up the decorations'

She also asked me to hoover the stairs and landing. I come back from her house crying sometimes.

We will have the same baby age gap :)

Aww sorry to hear your family is being rubbish.
PGP is awful I had it too at the end.
I think people must just get so wrapped up in their own lives they just don't stop to think.
But look on the bright side, at least you have strangers looking after you

Thank you everyone! I have a wonderful DH, who is staying home till Tuesday from work so he can help me with our son!

My mom called last night asking how I'm feeling! And told me she baked a turkey and it was way to big and that my dads brother with his family is moving houses and that she will cook lunch for them so they can concentrate on the move!! When I hung up the phone I just started to cry! She knew I couldn't even cook for my own family because of the pain (she didn't knew about the soup yet) and didn't bring us some. But she is bringing it to my uncles..

DH and I have decided that we will sell our place (I love it very much) and move hundreds of miles away.

Interesting how much this is about food. Would it be an idea for your dh to learn to cook a few dishes. So you eat some good wholesome stuff rather than rely on the takeaway?

If you have a freezer, get a large pan and cook big batches. If new to it, Delia Smith has a big website and she is very good at explaining what to do for novices.

While this doesn't address what's behind the issue - feeling a bit neglected - you both might enjoy feeling self sufficient AND well fed.

Can't your husband cook?

I'm suffering from SPD and finding doing much around the house too painful. But my parents live an hours drive away and my mum is recovering from a mastectomy, so she's not cooking me anything either if it makes you feel any better. Fortunately my partner is making me some lovely meals.