Too scared to register pregnancy with midwife

[kezza45]

In February we found out we were expecting (I found out at 4w1d) and registered with the midwife at 5w. We lost the baby and the hospital dismissed it as a chemical pregnancy. Four months ago I was pregnant again, registered with the midwife at 6w and found out at 8w reasurrance scan that the heartbeat stopped at 6w2d.
I've just found out I'm pregnant again (we're thrilled by the news) but obviously absolutely petrified. Is it ok to just leave registering with the midwife a little longer, say until I'm 10w or something? I don't want it to feel "real" until then if that makes sense because another loss would break my heart all over again :(
Also panicking because boobs not hurting in the slightest and I have mild cramping and constipation - none of whoch I had with the other 2 pregnancies.

I didn't register until I was 14 weeks but I knew at 4 weeks, I have anxiety and was just scared they where going to judge me because of being 17 at the time. It was fine they did the scan as soon as I registered and everything was okay. Only thing I will say is if you leave it too late the ultrasounds may be off slightly on due date seeing as early ultrasounds are the most accurate. I wouldn't leave it anymore than 12 weeks x

Oh you poor thing.

But to answer your question, yes, it's fine. I had a miscarriage and didn't register the next pregnancy until 9 weeks for just this reason. As long as you can be flexible if they have to squeeze you in for a scan (I was having a private scan, so not an issue) you should be fine. My area don't do booking in until around 10 weeks anyway.

You know all the stuff that they'd tell you at this stage - like taking folic acid and foods to avoid or limit.

kezza so sorry for your losses.

Here is the info on what happens at the first contact and booking in appointment.

Best of luck.

Sorry for your losses - I'm sure as far as your pregnancy goes it's ok, but personally after a loss I wanted to get the next pregnancy on my record asap because if you reach 3 then you can have investigations to see if there is a reason for them. Fortunately I never needed them and I hope you don't either, congratulations on this pregnancy!

I would go so you can get another reassurance scan done. If you, and I'm not saying you will, have a third miscarriage you will need it registered in your medical notes as its now the time to look into why this is happening. Its likely just bad luck but there may be an underlying reason.

I choose not to register my pregnancy at first as i had to have a CVS test my first son has a life limiting genetic condtion and I new we had a 1 in 4 chance of passing it on to the baby. If the baby was effected I wouldn't of been able to go through with the pregnancy although we desperately wanted the baby.

The results were clear and baby uneffected although I did have a few complications with cvs because I didn't register with midwife, I registered after I got the results around 12 weeks and had my booking appointment and scan a bit later, around 14 weeks they rushed scan through.

Hope everything goes well with you xx

I didn't bother ringing the GP until 11 weeks as I've had several miscarriages and couldn't bear to go through it being 'official' and then losing it. You don't need to register a pregnancy ever if you don't want to although you obviously wouldn't get any pre-natal care.

I would register. The reason I say this is because the NHS will intervene if God forbid you were to experience a third loss. They don't seem to take any action until repeated miscarriage which I think is absolutely shocking. There are drugs they can give you to prevent miscarriage, but my friend was not 'eligible' for this until her 4 th pregnancy (which was successful with medicated support)

I truly hope this pregnancy is meant to be and goes well for you, I can not imagine the stress you are currently under. But if this pregnancy were to go unregistered and the worst happened you would have to go through the whole process again before you received help.

I don't know how to word this post positively, I am so sorry that it seems so abrupt. I'm a truly heartbroken at your losses. I am wishing you the very very best. Hugs.

Sorry to hear what you've been through - here's hoping this one "sticks". I didn't register with a midwife until I was 11 weeks, which was fine, but I had a hell of a job getting an appt in time to have the NT scan done. I ended up having it at 13 wks and 6 days (the time limit) because I couldn't get an appt before, and the baby was 2 mm too long for them to do the Combined Test (for Downs/chromosomal abnormalities). I'm now having to get the quad test done instead, which is less accurate. So I would say, just bear in mind that if you're going through the NHS, be aware that you may not get an immediate appt and that there are time limits and size limits for screening scans and blood tests. (13+6 at my hospital, or 14+1 with some others, and 84mm crown to rump length!) Hope that helps - good luck! Xx

PS having heard your story, it might be worth asking to get progesterone prescribed (or your levels tested, at least) as I've seen some research that suggests it can prevent miscarriage in some cases. Not conclusive, but worth asking - it's quite commonly prescribed on the continent, apparently.

I think it's up to you...but 3 mc does lead to investigation. But I can understand your fears. I mc twice was v cautious about 3rd ( now ds) was v open when registered.
Someone above mentioned progesterone - I don't know the ins and outs of your story but I believe taking high levels of b complex helped me not mc.
Goodluck.

I didn't go to the gp until after 8 weeks and two reassurance scans during my last pregnancy. He said I left it a bit late but all was fine in regards to getting booked in.

Best of luck and lots of sticky baby dust

My friends pregnancy was successful simply by taking Asprin once a day! Not to be undertaken without medical supervision, but there are very simple medical options. There is definitely hope!! Good luck.