First time depression?

[samw231]

Hi,
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for 4 years with no success. Then 48hrs ago I found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant. But instead of the joy I everyone tells me I should be feeling, I'm in shock and feel quite low about it. I'm struggling with the feeling that my life and my body have been snatched away from me without notice, even though this is what we wanted for so long. Has anyone else struggled with this sort of thing? I feel very alone and those around me just tut and say I'm being ungrateful.

Any kind advice would be appreciated. I am really struggling to get my head around this. I'm 31 and this is my first baby.

Sam

I think this is quite a natural reaction. I'm 32 and expecting our first. We were lucky, as it only took a few months to concieve, but once I had that positive test my emotions were all over the place. One minute I was really excited, the next minute I'd be feeling depressed that life as I knew if was over, and I kept thinking of all the things I'd wanted to do before having a baby, but that I assumed were now out the window.

9 months is a long time, which is a good thing because it can take a while to adjust to being pregnant and get your head around what is ahead of you, even when you've been trying for a long time. Please be kind to yourself - these are perfectly natural feelings.

I'm now 33 weeks and I know my life is going to be very different very soon, but in a good way, and I'm really excited about meeting my baby.

It is extremely common to feel very low in the first trimester.
I have a ds who's 12 and have longed for another child but circumstances weren't right. I'm now with a lovely partner and am 22 weeks pregnant.
Even though we conceived very quickly I have spent most of my pregnancy worrying that something bad was going to happen. Since 20 week scan and being able to feel baby move I have relaxed and am starting to enjoy it.
Is definitely get in contact with your midwife and have a good chat with them.

It's understandable to be in shock. There is no right or wrong way to feel at this or any other stage of pregnancy, and how you feel now might well change as the weeks go on. It may also be an element of self protection in case things don't quite go to plan.
With Dc1 (planned) I felt awful mentally from the word go, but we got to a wonderful place together in the end. With Dc2 (very big accident) it felt very different.
I'm rambling now, but really just wanted you to know you're not alone, and to keep talking about how you feel, either here or to people in RL xx

samw231 - Not alone on this! DH and I have been trying to conceive for a while. My initial reaction was happiness, but the next few weeks that followed were very difficult - emotions were all over the shop. Once I had my scan though, everything changed. It's also been much better since the MS and tiredness have eased off. Pregnancy hormones are so much fun!

Hope your feeling better soon. Try not to beat yourself up about how you feel, it's normal, loads of people before you have gone through it and things will get better :) x