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How long did it take you to get pg after mc? and any tips?!

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edie123 · 28/09/2006 13:02

Im ttc after a mc and wondered how long it takes on average? Im scared! I know this has been discussed loads but any tips?...

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mummyhill · 28/09/2006 17:54

Best thing is to just relax and try not to obsess.

twocatsonthebed · 28/09/2006 17:56

I had a miscarriage last year, and it took a few months for things to settle down and I was getting very stressed about it, and I think the relaxation thing is key.

What made the difference for me was reflexology - I'd heard good things about it anyway for fertility, but don't know whether it was that or just making me relaxed - but got pregnant within a month, and am now at 35 weeks! But I'd also second the Toni Wechsler book as being very good, and helping you to feel in control of the process.

foundintranslation · 28/09/2006 18:01

I'm sorry for your loss edie.
I had a very early mc and conceived ds 3 cycles later. Then this year I had a mc at about 6-7 weeks, conceived immediately again (no period in between), and mc again - a missed mc (probably blighted ovum) this time, caught early because I had a tiny spot of blood - but I am absolutely certain the last mc was not related to not having waited. I am now waiting for one period before trying again, but not because I think I will mc again if I don't, but rather because after 2 mcs within two months I think it sensible to give my body a bit of a break from hormones shooting up and down.

elliepippamummy · 28/09/2006 18:15

Hi had mc in early feb dr recommended we didnt try for 3 months (so I avoided doing the deed for those 3 months) then 1st month of trying we fell pg again (DD took 9 months of trying and m/c had taken 7 months of trying) but we did BD alot around ovulation and I did buy ovulation kit but do wonder whether it was quality rather that quantity as we hadnt done any BD in the previous 3 months????

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edie123 · 30/09/2006 14:58

Thanks for advice everyone. Bding last night for first time as bleeding had finished few days before but today I feel a bit achy, think it was just a bit of a shock after everything my body has been through! Keeping fingers crossed for this and following months...

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time4tea · 01/10/2006 18:39

Edie, I got pregnant after the first normal period after the ERPC, I read Toni Weschler's book and did the charting. Excellent. Someone told me you are full of hormones after a mc, can help. A friend was attending a fertility clinic, told to BD every other day throughout the cycle, from the start of next period - good advice, if you can't be bothered with charting etc, and don't find it too tiring :-) good luck but be prepared for ups and downs... it was good for me to c onceive again so quickly (now 19 weeks) but still very close to the mc, it has been hard getting my head around it. try to take it easy, whatever happens

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edie123 · 01/10/2006 18:41

Thankyou Timefortea, very good advice

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edie123 · 02/10/2006 19:52

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edie123 · 04/10/2006 09:22

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oneandbump · 04/10/2006 10:25

I have a five 1/2 year old and started trying for another when he was 2 1/2. It wasnt until he was almost 4 that i concieved - however that ended in mc. About 6 mths after that i has another mc . To be honest we had pretty much given up as we really could nt put ourselves through it again but im happy to report im now 7 moths pregnant with the much tried for 2 nd child!

We did everything right- weight loss, no drinking- dh stopped smoking- the ovulation tests etc but it all went wrong. I just think now having gone through it your boby will do it only when its ready. I know that doesn t help but no matter what we did it didnt help! With our first son we concieved on the 1st cycle after coming off the pill and this one has taken 3 years!

Just keeping going for it - it will happen!- Good luck!

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edie123 · 04/10/2006 10:57

Thankyou

Yeah I agree that the body will just do it when it wants to and having a healthy lifestyle doesn't automatically mean that everything will be ok-my dp is a boxer and trains very hard-never drinks or smokes and has to eat very well. He has always taken vits. I rarely drink, don't smoke and exercise fairly regularly. This time around we are not going to bother with ov kits etc.

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Mishee · 04/10/2006 12:36

Try as soon as you feel emotionally and physically ready. I lost one last September and waited a few months before trying again, as I felt emotionally drained. Then lost one in January, but coped much better, fell again in February and am now due at the end of the month! Just make sure you feel up to it. Obviously, even when you fall pregnant again, you will worry about losing the baby. With me, this fear did eventually pass. Good luck.

Juicylucythe2nd · 04/10/2006 13:40

Hi Edie,

It's taken me four months. I had an AF 2 weeks after the ERPC then 2 normal AF's before my BFP last month.

Still early days, but the desparation to get pg again after an mc was huge and not too healthy.

I used all the tricks available last cycle. EPO, Omega 3 supplements, cough meds and grapefruit juice + 20 mins of bum in the air after bd'g. Bd'g every other day from day 10 to day 16 (would have continued to day 20, but DH went away!)

Good luck and don't give up hope.

blueshoes · 04/10/2006 15:29

edie12, it took me 6 months. I was losing hope by then, but then I conceived.

Same with first (non-MC) pregnancy which I conceived after 5 months. I had to lose hope before I could conceive. I conceived first time round for second pregnancy but lost that one at 7 weeks!

Minnie00 · 04/10/2006 18:20

Hi Edie,

I conceived less than a week after having had an ERPC in June. When my period still hadn't arrived 6 weeks after ERPC, my DH said 'Are you sure you're not pregnant?' - to which I replied 'Don't be so bloody stupid!' .

To be honest, it didn't even occur to me that I could - or would - fall pregnant again so quickly after the m/c. Midwife did say later that many women have increased fertility after a m/c. I wasn't warned to use protection until after I'd had a normal cycle again, and I spent weeks worrying after the pregnancy was confirmed, as I was convinced I was going to lose this baby because my body was still recovering from the previous m/c.

Now at 15 weeks and still can't quite believe it! Suffering sickness morning, noon and night - but still smiling because I know I am so blessed to have conceived again so quickly.

Minnie

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edie123 · 05/10/2006 17:27

Hi Juicy! Used to seeing you in the ttc-heres to bouncing babies thread.

Minnie-oh my god that was really quick! Good on you! I have really heavy af at the moment but can't wait until it has stopped.

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