38 weeks pregnant and DH wants to travel for funeral

[columbine75]

I have to get this off my chest. I am being made to feel like a horrible selfish person (I know it's the grief talking). My husband's uncle died at the weekend and he wants to travel from South Wales to Leeds for the funeral (doesn't expect me to go to), I really don't want him to (2nd baby, 2/5 engaged, consultant appt for obstetric cholestasis on Thursday). I don't want to tell him he can't go, but I want him to make that decision for himself. My mum will come and stay at the drop of a hat to look after me and DD, but I don't want to end up in labour alone. He says I can get back in time, labour no 1 was very long, but I've explained that this doesn't mesn this one will be too. Aargh. At a loss.

Let him go! I think you're being a little bit selfish, although understand why.

My DH went to a close family funeral 3 hours away the day before my due date and the day after I'd been in hospital until 11pm for monitoring. A friend came and spent the day with me. There was nothing DH could do for me that she couldn't and I was not going to deny him the chance to say goodbye to a family member. It was bad enough that I couldn't be there to support him and say goodbye myself. We kept in text contact. It was all fine although hardly the nicest day for either of us.

I totally understand how you feel OP. My OH's step grandmum died when I was 38 weeks with DS1. I was so, so worried about him going from London to Cardiff for the funeral when I was 39 weeks. In fact, I even posted about it on AIBU as I really, really worried about him going across the country when I was days away from giving birth. But people talked sense into me. He needs to go if he feels he needs to. My OH went but with some conditions; he drove over early in the morning rather than going the night before, he went straight to the church and then didn't stay long at the wake, just showed his face. As it turned out I spent a lovely day with my DF that we still reminisce about to this day! I say let him go if he wants to, make lovely plans to distract yourself!

YABU

I agree with the others. He should go. If you don't want to be apart from him then you should go with him.