Feeling really anxious already

[MrsKCG]

Hey ladies.

This may seem completely pathetic but I just need to write it all down. Im 7 weeks pregnant and have suffered with nausea for the last week. Im already fed up with it, but now having read other peoples experiences, realise that it could possibly get worse, and go on for weeks and weeks!

Im a worrier anyway, but the last few days I've been feeling really anxious about everything - How my body will change. What will happen to me in the next few months. Will I continue to feel sick. We had booked to go to New York at the end of October, by which point i'll be 11+4, and I'm worried I might still be feeling sick, or tired, and not enjoy the trip at all. We had always planned to go before we had a baby but didnt think I would get pregnant as quickly as I did.

And the birth! At the moment I cant cope with the idea of a natural birth but I know there isnt really any reason why they would grant me an elective C section.

Ive not got my booking appointment for another 2 weeks, and cant help but feel like I'm going to completely bombard the midwife with all my fears, and she'll just tell me to suck it up and get on with it. Bless my OH, he is trying to be so supportive but at the moment I'm massively freaking out

We had always planned on trying for a baby this year but I must have just bypassed the fact that I'll be pregnant. I'm obviously excited about being a mum but the next 7 months are going to be a real struggle for me

Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels like this?

I don't think you sound pathetic - I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my first too, and this all sounds really familiar! I also have tendencies towards anxiety in general, so this is a rabbit hole that's really easy to fall down! Can I ask - have you told anyone that you're pregnant that you could chat to? I have told my mum (and I'm lucky enough that she is fab), and I've had lots of chats with her about how I feel and things I'm thinking about. It's been a life-saver. If you've got a trusted female friend or relative who has been through this before it might be helpful for them to know so you can talk to someone, as well as people on t'internet.

To your specific worries - some of this might help. Holidays - I have been having waves of horrible nausea all through most days, and went to France for a week last week. It was fine - I was more tired than usual, so had to make sure my OH knew and made some allowances (normally we do big walks and lots of activities, so it was a bit different). But we still had lots of fun, and keeping active also took my mind off the general worries. I am very jealous of your NY trip, it's my spiritual home - don't worry about not enjoying it now, it will be fun, it just might be a bit different than if you weren't pregnant. I am also assured (by my mum!) that the tiredness is better after 12 weeks - although everyone is different. Birth - the only way I have thought about this so far is looked at all my friends who have had kids and thought, well, they all did it - they are totally normal, just like me, and they all did it. So one way or another it is happening, and it will be okay. But if you are really, really scared - as about c-sections - worst they can say is no, right? and then at least you know where you stand. Other people - so far (and I am sure this won't last!) I have tried not to read about other experiences as much as possible. Everyone is different, and if you're worrying then the possibles might just fuel the worry and not help.

Hope some of that helps - it is really scary, and you are not alone in feeling like this.

Hi Laurita, thank you so much for getting back to me. We've told our families, and my sisters in law (who both have 2 kids) have said I can speak to them about any concerns I have.

It's good to hear from someone who has travelled too. I'm really excited about NY, and am trying so hard not to worry about not feeling great as its still 4 weeks away and the nausea could have passed by then! I guess its just the unknown thats freaking me out a little bit. And you're so right - I think about all my friends who have had kids and think the same; they've done it and they're all ok, so why am I worrying?!

I'm going to keep a note of all my worries and take them all to my booking appointment. I'm also going to ask if I can possibly have my scan before we travel, as then I will know that everything is (hopefully) fine and I dont have to worry about it!

I think once the nausea has passed and I start to feel normal again my fears will go away, and I will hopefully start to enjoy the experience. As bad as it sounds, I'm not enjoying it at all at the moment!!

I don't think you're meant to enjoy the first 3 months. We were trying for 10 months, which is not very long in the scheme of things, but I was starting to get very worried that we would need extra help. So I am trying to keep positive and grateful. But it's hard to do when you have had to call in sick to work again and can't tell them why, and you just want to curl up somewhere and sleep.

Good idea on seeing if you can get a scan before you go. I saw my mw for the first time this morning and that also helped - she answered all my questions, even the daft ones, and made me feel much better.

Good luck - really hope all goes well! x

Thank you so much, it really is nice to hear from someone feeling the same! I was feeling very emotional on Monday and had a cry on the phone to my husband, not good as he was on the way to work as I was on the way home!

Glad your mw appointment went well, sounds like my mind will be put at rest when I see mine too.

Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly xx