Pregnant again after recent miscarriage.

[CourtneyLou89]

Hi-
I am a mother of a 5 year old born in '09. I also had a miscarriage in '10 and in June of this year. I am now pregnant again just 3 months later. I am happy that I am pregnant and would love to be able to get excited over the baby like I want to, instead of feeling a little reserved about it. I am scared that this will end the same as the previous two, but, at the same time, I know I have an extremely healthy son too. It's almost like I am preparing for all possible outcomes to protect myself. Has anyone had this problem, been through something similar, or have any advice? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I got pregnant again straight away luckily. Now have a 2.5 yr old DS and think labour is just starting with DC2...

I was very nervous, weirdly more so in the early stages of this pregnancy rather than the first as couldn't quite get my head around being lucky enough to have a second. Even though millions of people do. The only advice really is to take it a day or stage at a time. I tried to forget about at first and just plod on with life... Although difficult sometimes with MS etc. I told myself I couldn't do anything about it and tried to stay relaxed. I remember becoming upset with DS as a couple if pregnant friends we're buying lots of baby things and I just couldn't bear too as I didn't quite believe things would be ok. But do you what, that's fine. As time went on, I became more ready. Although still didn't quite shake that worried feeling until my DS was burn. But u suppose that's common for most/all mums.

I know it's difficult as it's such a long, long time, particularly when you're anxious or worried. Perhaps you can talk if through with a trusted friend or someone who's been in the same position. Good luck.

Hi, so sorry for your losses, it's the most horrendous thing to go through. I was a recurrent miscarrier, and for no other reason than just really bad luck. The last miscarriage I had was a late one and it was last summer, I fell pregnant immediately afterwards and I'm now looking at my 5 month old son snoozing peacefully in my lap. The pregnancy was really tough, I had a lot of complications and I was a complete wreck with anxiety that we would lose yet another baby. I found that the pregnancy after miscarriage thread on here was hugely helpful, it kept me sane, the ladies are all so lovely and really understand. It is really difficult being pregnant after miscarrying, I used to have panic attacks in the scan room and be a sobbing mess before the sonographer had even turned the machine on. I spoke tothe supervisor of midwives at our hospital and told her my history, and she made sure that it was in my notes and that everyone dealing with my care knew to be sensitive (at one stage I was ready to kill the next person who asked "is this your first?"). We had an absolutely amazing consultant too.
I'm not sure it gets easier, I couldn't bring myself to order our pram until I was 34 weeks pregnant, luckily it arrived a couple of days later as DS was born at 35 weeks! I did find that the crippling anxiety eased a bit when I started to feel movements though, that being said, I was at the hospital over 10 times for reduced movements in the latter stages as the little monkey liked to scare me for no apparent reason!
Anyway, I'm rambling, sorry. It is really hard, but try to take each day at a time and remember that even for recurrent miscarriers, it's far more likely that everything will be absolutely fine than not. Hang in there x

Courtney I'm sorry for your losses. I MC in June too and am now 7 weeks pregnant. I'm terrified too. I have no other children, so my qualm is that my body won't be able to go full term, even though I know it is a ridiculous assumption.
It is hard to enjoy the pregnancy isn't it!? Every day is full of worry and every time I go to the loo I am crossing my fingers there is no blood.

The best advice someone gave me here in the forum is to say 'I am pregnant, today' just take each day as it comes. All the best! Fingers crossed for you everything works out its time

Hi, you're not alone l also misscarried in June.It still fee abit raw, l was unsure about trying again butnit happened and it was only with loose planning with dates.l have only just found out l am pregnant l honestley didn't expect it to happen so soon. I want to be excited but instead l feel anxious and sick, l think l feel sick because the anxiousness rather than the pregnancy though. I can only imagine this will continue until our little bundle's turn up.

Goodluck and here's to healthy pregnancies.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I miscarried on the 22/08 and have just found out I'm pregnant again, wasn't expecting it to happen so quickly and am unsure whether to feel excited yet as it's terrifying me it'll happen again.
Hope you have a sticky bean good luck xx