miscarriage no2

[soph123kay]

hi everyone i had a early miscarrige last month and got pregnant straight after that im now goin thought another miscarriage i feel like shit my partner is not there for me hes full of smiles and it feels like to me he dosent care. to top it off my best friend found out she was pregnant same time as me her due date it day before mine was. i feel like im useless like im not a woman to happen 2 times in a row, i know im blessed as i have a beautiful daughter but i dnt know how much more of this i can take i desperately want another baby. dr thinks i have a uti that keeps causing miscarriages even tho he didnt believe i was pregnant the 2nd time he said it was left over hormones i know i was as ive passed fetal tissue i feel like if took me seriously when i said i think im pregnant this wouldnt have happpend. my dp is out atm with his friends drinking i begged him to stay with me and he just said i need i to party with my friends ill b back later xx

Aw luv, in so sorry xxx

First off you are NOT useless. Miscarriages happen mostly because the cells havnt formed properly & your body knows it so "gets rid" as horrible as that sounds. I had to have a late medical termination last year, then had two miscarriages after and felt like I was being punished. I thought there was something wrong with me for it to go wrong 3 times. You are NOT useless. You cannot control how your body reacts to a pregnancy, if we could then nobody ever would have miscarriages.

Have you had treatment for the suspected UTI? That's shocking of your partner, how terribly hurtful. Maybe, it's his way of coping? That won't make you feel any better but he's probably as upset as you are.

I'm so sorry for your loss I really am xxx

You are NOT useless xxx

You are not useless in any way. miscarriages are horrible and your dp really needs to step up and be more supportive. I had an early mc before my ds then another before this pregnancy. I found the second more of a shock as I stupidly thought that having carried to full term, it wouldn't happen again. The midwife told me the chance of a 3rd was much less than the chance of one or 2. take the time you need to heal physically and emotionally. look after yourself and be kind to yourself. hope it all works out for you.

I meant to start by saying that I am so sorry for your loss.