I have an old friend who lost her baby a few months ago, quite late on. I wouldn't say we were very close, although we have known each other since year dot.
She hadn't told me directly that she was pregnant, I learned through someone else on social media. I sent her an email congratulating her, but a few weeks later she got the devastating news, which again I heard through social media not directly. She did, however, tell me about her first pregnancy (she has a healthy little boy aged 3).
I am pregnant, and was so at the time, and am approaching my final weeks. I have kept the pregnancy very private, with only a few family members knowing.
I'm not really one for publicising my business on social media, but was thinking of putting a baby announcement and photo online when he/she makes an appearance....
My question is should I make a point of telling this friend about my pregnancy in advance of the birth, or let her wait until everyone else knows? I wouldn't want her to think I've deliberately held it from her, but at the same time don't want to rub her nose in it.