2nd trimester reassurance

[lozzy1982]

Hi ladies,
Had my 12 week scan last week, and entering the 2nd trimester. I have no scans now until 18 weeks. Symtoms like nausea and tierdness are decreasing like expected, but they are the things that kept me safe in the knowledge through the 1st trimester that everything was ok. Its too early to feel the baby moving so How do you second tri ladies cope and stay sane in the knowledge that everything is ok?

Even though it's not recommended, I have a Doppler at home. I had a lot of bleeds so was nice to be able to listen in on him just to reassure me. Saved me a few trips to a&e! But, on the other hand, if you can't find a heartbeat straight away, you obviously start panicking and cause yourself unnecessary worry.

I struggled after the 12 weeks scan as our next scan isn't intil next Monday when I'm almost 21weeks. I am guilty of having a doppler at home and although I know it is the worst thing to have, it has certainly settled my mind when we listen to baby's heartbeart on a Friday night.

We booked in for a private scan at 16 weeks which definitely broke up the wait for us and has helped us get through the big gap between scans. This is my first and at 18 weeks I started feeling him move which was also a huge help.

I just told myself that the risks of miscarriage now were tiny, it wasn't as hard as I thought and was feeling lots of movements by the time my second scan came.

I was far more worried about the possibility of there being something wrong with my baby rather than anything else, after all that is why they do the second scan.

Just relax, easier said then done I know! This is sposed to be the easy bit!

I just tried to focus my mind on other things like baby names, and watching my non-existent bump grow... that and busy myself looking after DC so that I haven't time to stress and worry

You could always get a private scan, this time as something fun and for pictures etc, as your 12 and 20 weeks are more nerve-wracking that anything else :)

Why is the doppelganger not recommended? Is it dangerous? Would a stethoscope do the job or is that just a stupid question lol

Doopler not doppelganger ha

They're not really recommended because they can give false reassurance and can cause more anxiousness and panic. What some people think is the heartbeat of their baby is actually their own bladder, or heartbeat. You have to know how to use it and what to listen for.

Ahhh ok!! I did just have a little look on Amazon and they aren't too expensive! Bit I will be sick with worry if I couldn't find anything!!

Sometimes you think nothing is wrong because you hear a heartbeat, only to find out there was something wrong and it was your own heartbeat that you were actually hearing. It happens sometimes, so in that sense they can be dangerous. BUT people do use them and have no problems with distinguishing which sound is which :)

Currently babies heart rate is 148 and mine is 65 so it's quite easy for me to tell which is which. Having said that before I found him and was confident it wasn't mine it did take a bit of using to actually get used to which heart beat was which. This little one has been good to us and we've found him quite easily first time on the doppler BUT I remember my midwife saying sometimes they struggle to find them before 16 weeks so it isn't worth the potential panic to use them earlier. It depends on baby, where they lay, where placenta is, padding on mum etc... I'm just naughty and couldn't resist the temptation.

After one of my bleeds, I doppled. Rang mw and told her I'd heard the heartbeat so wasn't too worried. I was about 11 weeks. She would not have it that I'd found the hb at home! Told me 'even WE struggle to find the hb before 16 weeks, so there's no way you could have found it'. I told her I'd found it first at 9 weeks! I thought she was going to hang up on me! Haha

love we found his heartbeat at 10 weeks. I was too afraid to tell the MW we had a doppler at home so when she used her for the HB at 16 weeks me and DH did an Oscar worthy performance of "first time we heard baby"

I like your style! Sod em though. We have the right to Dopple if we want to! Infact, I might have a go now, just cos I can! Hehe.