Scared of DH reaction

[Scaredmumno3]

Hi just found out I am pg with no 3, will be 42 when baby comes and didn't think it was possible to get pregnant, well that's what I thought and told my husband.....anxious but happy at the same time but trying to build up the courage to tell DH, really not sure what it will be, he already said ages ago we were too old to have any more (he is 46) and because of my gynae history (lots if surgery and one ovary) I really didn't think possible, even doctors at hospital said so. I'm worried he will want me to terminate, I really want this baby, know it will be risky, saw GP this morning and he said I am classed as high risk and referred me for ante natal at hospital. Anyone got any suggestions of breaking it gently? I'm booked in for routine scan check up for gynae issues in a couple of weeks, when I will be 9 weeks, would it be awful to keep to myself till then? Sorry for babbling just no one else to talk to.

I don't think there is a way to tell him gently. Your best bet would be to sit down with him and tell him, tell him you also plan to have the baby and you'd like his support and what he thinks and feels about it. Asking him to attend the appointment with you might help.

But you should also prepare yourself in case he really doesn't want another, and you're left to decide what's best for you and your family.

And I know others might say well he/you should have thought about that when he didn't use a condom but this isn't helpful information to you.

I'm sure someone else will come along with better and more helpful advice than me. :)

Congratulations and good luck.

Thank you. I'm going to have to leave it until at least next week before I tell him, he has a really important make or break thing going on and really don't want to tell him and add any more pressure than he is already under. If it goes well, then hopefully he may be positive about the situation we are in, if it doesn't go well then maybe it will still be seen as a blessing, I'm a great believer in things happening for a reason. Trying to stay positive, just weird that no one else in RL knows. Thanks again for your understanding words.

Hello, just wondering how you are getting on? x