Pregnant after recent MC - Sick with worry.

[leanne963]

I had a MC at 11 weeks on the 16th of June. It was the worst experience of my life, it was my first pregnancy and me and my partner were so happy. I remember i had minor cramps and small amounts of bleeding, but as i had irregular periods i didn't think much of it. The only pregnancy symptom i had was tender breasts, but i KNEW something was wrong. I had a gut instinct.

I found out i was pregnant again on Friday, estimated at about 4-5 weeks. I am such a whirlwind of emotions, i am SO happy, but SO worried at the same time. I have more symptoms this time, nauseous, sore throat, blocked nose, not sleeping and achy inside of legs. As i am so early i am petrified to get my hopes up as i have so long to wait for a scan.

Has anyone been through the same thing and how did you stop yourself from going insane!?

Oh bless you, its so hard not to worry.

I think you have to try to think positive as hard as it is after such an awful experience. I had a miscarriage before I had my DD and I was worried sick but it all worked out fine. I'm now 11 weeks pregnant with DC2 and the worry is there again so I do understand, it's natural.

Stay away from Google first and foremost. Reading horror stories won't help at all! Try not to worry about symptoms either - I had periods of being fine with my DD so if you find they ease off a little bit don't panic, it's quite normal.

Congratulations

Hi Leanne - so sorry for your loss, but pleased that you've got a BFP, brilliant news! Re your worries - come on over to the 'TTC after a MC' thread - there are many lovely ladies at different stages, and happily a couple of us that have also recently got their first BFPs after a MC, so could probably give you some advice and support.

Hope to see you over there x

Thank you Gemzybelle It is so hard not to google and stroll through all the threads on here. Everyone is different i guess, i am going to try and go to me GP tomorrow to see if she can recommend anything or get me in for an early scan, if not i might fork out the £80 for a private scan to put my mind at rest.

I am just starting my final year of uni too and it is not really the stress i need right now but hopefully i will be fine! :)

Ooooh Clarabow26 where abouts is that thread?? Thank you x

Sorry to hear of your loss leanne, I am in the same position. Had a miscarriage in june at 15 weeks and have just found out I am pregnant, I am terrified of going through that again.
I have no advice apart from try to relax and try to just enjoy being pregnant each day, just wanted you to know you are not alone. Xx

Bless your heart TheWildOnes it's tough to be positive, I rang for a doctor appointment and they can't see me til October the 7th. Sorry if this is TMI but I had quite a difficult bowel movement with some blood and now there is a tiny bit of brown vaginal discharge! Hope this goes! Fingers crossed for you too, how far along are you!?

Hey Leanne - the TTC after a MC thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2191556-TTC-after-a-MC

xx

Firstly - congrats on your pregnancy :)

I had 2 miscarriages last year - both at around 5/6 weeks and with no cycle in between.

I fell pregnant again in March and the first 12 weeks were hell! I was lucky to get a 7 week scan because of the previous MC and I expected the worse. I continued to expect the worst until the 12 weeks scan - tbh I expected the worst at the 20 week scan too but nope she's still in there - kicking like mad.

It is hard but I almost stuck my head in the sand and carried on as normal (well almost normal since I felt like crap, couldn't drink etc). I figured if it was going to stick then it would stick and nothing I did would really change it.

Can you get an early scan to reassure you? Even a private on if you can't get one at the EPU?

I am almost 41 weeks pregnant following a MC in October. It is perfectly natural to worry and I still worry now (I am a worrier though). The pregnancy after miscarriage thread is brilliant, even if you choose to follow it and not post. They have a mantra 'today I am pregnant' and it got me through. You may be able to get an early scan at your local EPU but from experience they do like you to be 6 weeks at least. It's easy for someone else to say but keep positive and congratulations!

Just to add, old blood is better than fresh red blood. I bled at about 10 weeks with this pregnancy and was worried sick but all was ok.

polkadot ooh your bundle of joy is here soon?! Congratulations!! I love that mantra, that is wonderful! I just did a pregnancy meditation to send positive vibes, I am a natural worrier too - terrible anxiety!

Kitkat Congratulations!! I am booked in to see the doc on the 7th of October. If they won't get me in for a scan early then I will Def get a private scan - put my mind at rest!!!! ??

Hi!
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I had a mmc at 16 weeks last April. I am now mum to a beautiful little girl who is three months old today.
It is difficult not to worry although I found I was not as paranoid as I thought I would be. I found the check ups the worst as I found out in last pregnancy at 16 wks check up that there was no heartbeat. I woke up crying on the date I had my 16 wks check for this pregnancy.

Try to enjoy this pregnancy although I know that is easier said than done.
Xx

Aww Dk75 bless your heart that must have been tough! Bet you are over the moon now with you gorgeous daughter! During my last pregnancy I had a gut feeling something was wrong the entire time, I don't have that feeling this time! Fingers crossed I can come here in a few months with some positive news :)

Oh I am so sorry for your loss but congratulations on your pregnancy. I am 37 weeks with dc 2. I had early mcs before my 2 full term pregnancies. I am still worried. I worried all the way through my pregnancy with ds. It is almost impossible not to worry in fact it's normal. I just take each day as it comes as there is nothing else you can do. Just look after yourself and try not to worry too much. fingers crossed for all of you.

Thank you DuvetFan your name is exactly what I have been doing today - on the sofa with a duvet!!

Enjoy all the duvet time you can. I have an 2 year old who never sleeps, my username harks back to my early pregnancy days with him . I hope it all works out for you. statistically your chances for it working are really good. I kept hold of that thought every time.