Selfish DH or am I just being petty?

[Gemzybelle]

Hi all, first post after many years on the lurk

I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant with my second DC. I have a DD from a previous relationship but this is DH's first experience of a pregnant partner!

My DH is one of the most kind, attentive people I have ever known and this baby is very much wanted however lately I feel he has been very dismissive of how I'm feeling. I don't know what has changed but he's suddenly behaving like a bit of a tosser IMO.

I have suffered really badly with morning sickness from about 6 weeks and it's not letting up. This first trimester has been a blur of feeling like absolute shit day in, day out.

He seems to be getting fed up with me (as if I'm not sick of it by now ) keeps telling me how tiresome it is to hear me moaning about how ill I feel, rolls his eyes when DD asks me if I'm feeling ok, tells me I should just 'get on with it'. It's almost as if I'm annoying him.

DD has a school trip tomorrow and teacher asked if one of us would come along to help out. He volunteered me for the job knowing full well I will be vomiting my innards all over the place in the morning. He could have quite easily offered to do it himself, he's off work this week.

Grrrrrr I'm so annoyed. Am I just being hormonal? And how do I get him to wind his neck in before the real hard work starts

He sounds selfish.... I'd send him on trip how dare he volunteer you when you are suffering with sickness

Id totally throw up on him. In public i try not to moan too much. Ive heard colleagues moan about other women before. But my other half has to deal with it. That's basically his job now! Send him on the trip and have a nice day to yourself tomorrow!!

What's his excuse?

woodwaj I too try not to moan in public. But my DH will not be spared! If I want to moan, I will! Mind you, he's very proactive and always offer me a nice massage (end of second trimester and back ache is starting to appear).

I'd have a frank discussion with him. His behaviour is not acceptable. Even if he's stressed/anxious too. You need his unconditional support.

He can go himself. You don't volunteer other people for jobs, especially not a pregnant woman!

I had an ex husband who was similar OP, apparently there was with him some sort of cut off date where being ill was concerned. Up to 2 days was fine but anything after that he considered attention seeking and it was detracting from his role as Most Important Person in the household.

Maybe remind your dh that while its tiresome for him to hear you complain its infinitely more tiresome for you having to feel shit all the time in the first place.

Congrats on your pregnancy