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Weight Gain at 36 weeks :(

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PlumFairy2014 · 22/09/2014 15:19

I had my 36 week appointment today and I've put on 16 kilos. My BMI was 26 (overweight I know) when I got pregnant. The midwife seemed shocked and not too impressed, but didn't really tell me what to do. I just felt like a naughty child. She even said 'Well as long as the babies moving plenty' ... is it that dangerous!? Am I squishing my baby!?!?!

Now I'm really panicking that I've put on so much weight and it'll make labour really hard or they won't let me go to the birthing centre or a million awful things might happen. I have eaten mostly healthy food, but due to a bad situation at work I was signed off before my maternity leave, so went from being on my feet all day to being at home a lot more. So I can see what happened really...

I think I feel awful because I feel I have hurt my baby, I'm already a bad Mum! I may be a bit overly emotional and tired today, but if one more person says you look 'massive' and smiles at me... I might explode.

Someone tell me what I am meant to do and that it will be ok. :(

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TwigletFiend · 22/09/2014 16:04

What you are meant to do is take a deep breath, stick two fingers up at the judgey-pants MW and unwind with a cup of tea.

Plenty of women put on that much weight, quite a large number put on even more. It's horrible that your MW made you feel judged and no, you won't be squishing your baby at all. It's very well protected in there by amniotic fluid etc.

The important thing at your stage is to stay healthy. Keep eating and drinking as normal - you'll want your energy levels to stay as high as possible as your body starts to slow down in preparation for labour. Your body has grown a whole human being in the last nine months - it would be worrying if you hadn't put on weight.

mrsnec · 22/09/2014 16:12

Hi op, I was the same bmi as you at the start. I've put on around 12kg in total at nearly 39 weeks.

About half way through I had doctors giving me lectures about my diet. I didn't ignore them per se but did a very basic version of what they wanted and it didn't make much difference.

I haven't gained any more since 36 weeks though if that helps and agree with everything twiglet says.

twiglet2 · 22/09/2014 16:14

It's not just you putting the weight on, you've got a baby in there and the baby is putting weight on too, especially at this stage, plus you're also full of extra liquid. I'm sure your baby is absolutely fine :)

WhyOWhyWouldYou · 22/09/2014 16:18

What you are meant to do is take a deep breath, stick two fingers up at the judgey-pants MW and unwind with a cup of tea. - beautifully said twiglet.

OP plenty of people will put on far far more than that. Really the worst putting to much weight on would do is mean you have more to loose after baby. Baby will not be crushed or anything like that.

You can't do anything about weight gain in pregnancy other than try to eat healthy anyway.

Mrsgrumble · 22/09/2014 16:22

I put in a lot on first pregnancy.. A lot!!!! .. It was fluid. I was so swollen. If it helps I was pre pregnancy weight after four months.

Not long to go for you now. Try not to worry.

originalusernamefail · 22/09/2014 16:26

I don't know if it will make you feel better OP but I lost 28lb (14kg)) in the 24 hours between the start of active labour and discharge from hospital. Only 7lb (3.5 kg) of that was DS, the rest of placenta, retained fluid, assorted bits of gunk. I actually finished my pg 2kg lighter than my booking in weight.

Don't let your MW ruin the end of your pg. I will assume you have eaten things other than Mars bars and lard sarnies during your pg. We all do the best we can do but morning sickness,cravings and reduced mobility do for us all in the end. For your upcoming new arrival.

RedToothBrush · 22/09/2014 16:27

Bollocks to that! I put on 4 stone (25kg) whilst I was pregnant. I was only 8 stone to begin with and my BMI was 20.

No one made a single comment about it. In fact, I wasn't weighed once during my pregnancy.

I think you should consider if it was such a big deal, why aren't they weighing everyone as a matter of routine, and wouldn't my weight gain be as bad as yours, yet it wasn't even noticed.

Ignore.

RedToothBrush · 22/09/2014 16:28

Oh, and 3 weeks after DS has been born, I've lost 2 of that 4 stone.

mammycampbell · 22/09/2014 16:53

totally agree with twigletfiend i went from 9stone to 12.5 (don't know kgs but it's way over 20) and no one batted an eyelid. most of my pals have had pretty much the same. sounds like you have been unlucky with a judgey midwife/ caught her in a grumpy mood. not long to go for you now till you get to meet your beautiful baby. i know it's hard not to dwell on it when someone has been hurtful X

UpUpAndAway123 · 22/09/2014 18:26

Tell MW to pish off!!
Why are they even weighing you at 36 weeks?? Remember you have a nearly fully grown baby, fluid and a placenta on board!! Gaining weight in pregnancy doesn't equate to you getting fat-most of that weight will be lost after birth and the few weeks after especially if breast feeding! X

porcito · 22/09/2014 18:48

Don't worry...I'm on 16kg at 39w and my doctor doesn't care at all. Everyone's different! I was so sick for the first 4 months and still put 16kg, just the way it's happened. Although I'm currently sitting in McDonald's while there's still a good excuse...

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

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PlumFairy2014 · 22/09/2014 19:31

Thank you all so much for your responses!

I know it's probably the hormones, but I took it straight to heart. It's nice to know it's not just me and clearly baby should be just fine. :)

I think it may have just been a bad day for her. She even measured bumpy differently from how I've usually been measured, the difference isn't really possible and I think she realised (as she looked at it and said it was only a paper exercise anyway....).

You have all made me feel much better and it's greatly appreciated. :)

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FirsttimerG · 22/09/2014 20:33

I'm at 37 weeks and I've put on 24kg. I actually approached my midwife about it as I had a bmi of 29 when I got pregnant. She checked my fundal height (bang on) and all other health checks and told me not to worry.
She refused to weigh me. Ignore your MW. And it's very unlikely you've hurt your baby. Everyone is different! xxx

Upthenorthmountain4 · 22/09/2014 20:37

OP I started my pregnancy with a BMI of 40!

I finished my pregnancy with my BMI being 44.

I had no complications whatsoever and the midwife said that I had the healthiest placenta she had ever seen (I was 16 days overdue!).

No one judged me for being obese whilst pregnant, I have a healthy pregnancy, a brilliant labour (all natural) and a healthy baby boy at the end of it.

Hold your head up high, you're making a little miracle

Upthenorthmountain4 · 22/09/2014 20:42

*had a healthy pregnancy.

DS2 is now 1

bexster152233 · 22/09/2014 20:45

Sorry new to all this, I'm finding it hard conceiving I am 2 weeks late but I suffer from irregular periods Anyway, but I'm hungry , tight headaches feeling sick (like I've gone over a jump) please help xx

Upthenorthmountain4 · 22/09/2014 21:00

Bexster POAS (Take a pregnancy test).

Marmiterunner · 15/08/2018 15:27

I am 36 weeks pregnant and have only gained 2kg in total in pregnancy, hoping this is okay! Midwife didn’t give me much info!

NelleB · 15/08/2018 15:55

I’m 34 weeks with an 11kg gain... everyone is different and every pregnancy is. Hope you’re ok OP

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