Am I Wrong?

[Emma0811x]

To want my mum to be at the birth as well as my partner?
It's my first and I'm terribly anxious about the birth... It would be reassuring to me to have her there as she has been through it...
I think my partner has other ideas

You're having the baby...you decide!

However you should try and convince him it's a good idea as the less anxious you are the better the birth for both baby and you. Maybe try to come with a compromise...she is there to help during the first stages of labour and leaves for the actual pushing so that the 'being born' bit is just between you guys (and whatever NHS staff are there at the time)

If you will feel more secure/relaxed with them both there then have them both.
I had my mum and dh there, she didn't step on his toes at all and once it started to drag on they went off for breakfast/coffee when I was resting, it all got a bit scary in the end and it was fantastic that dh was there for ds snd my mum was there for me so he didn't feel torn.

I am pg again and before ttc dh actually said we needed to make sure we had someone there to have ds other than my mum as he really wanted my mum there too!

My mum was there, no planned but when I went into labour at night my husband was at work and couldn't get off, I loved it and had her there for dd2 aswell, I felt she'd be more pro active if I needed her to be. What doesn't he like about the idea? Surley what ever makes you happier is best and you can have two. Could you sell it to him that if it takes a long time and you won't want to be left alone it gives you the chance to nip and get some fresh air or grab a bite etc

I had my mum there at the birth of my first child, there were good and bad points, good because she could give dh a break and give me support, bad because she got upset seeing me in pain and dh felt a bit pushed out. At the birth of my 2 nd child it was just me and dh, it was a lot more relaxed.

I think you are wrong but you are the one having the baby so its whatever you think will help you.
The only person I wanted when I was giving birth was my husband. It is a very private precious time. Also why would you want to put your mum through seeing you in such pain? It is awful to see your child hurting and not able to stop it - I can't imagine that goes away because your child is an adult.

Hopefully I am having DH plus a trusted, experienced, female birth partner there. This is our 1st baby and I just feel I need some extra support from someone I know who has attended / been through birth before, (neither of us has). DH wasn't that keen at first but he came round in the end.

I had my mum and partner for my 1 st and really pleased I did .It was great having them both. I didnt for my second and wont for my 3rd . Good luck and do whatever makes you happy

I had my mum and partner, unfortunately this time having planned csection so can only have 1 person which is my partner. Your giving birth so I really think it should be your choice xx

I had both and it was great. Mum and Dh took shifts of supporting me as it was a long labour. Mum supported me in the shower afterwards, got me
My things etc whilst Dh stayed with baby. I would recommend having both there if u can. Plus mums have been through it - counts for a lot. she loved seeing her grandchild being born.

like Kitten i was only allowed one birth partner at a time, so DH and DM did shifts.

I definitely only wanted DH at the birth itself, but the labour can be a long process, so it's worth looking at it as a separate thing. It was 36 hours for me, and I was glad to have both with me lending their support in different ways.

They are not really close, v different people, but we discussed it and DH did respect my reasons for wanting DM there (he was a bit at first too) I also think he was very grateful for the chance to sneak off home for a few hours sleep during the boring 2 - 4cm phase lucky bugger

this time round I hope to have DH & my sister, as DM will be looking after DS. That's the plan... though hopefully all these tales about second labours being shorter will mean that one of them doesn't get the chance!!

hope it works out for you