looking after toddler while suffering from morning sickness??!

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Not sure whether there are any threads on this already but if not, anyone want to join me for a moan?! I'm about five weeks and already feeling absolutely terrible much of the time. DD is 15 months, we have no family nearby and I'm a SAHM. I just don't know how I'll get through the next few months. I haven't been sick yet but constantly feel sick and weak and often feel like I need to throw up but can't!

It's hard going (I'm past that now thank god, with a 9mo an almost 3yo).
Totally agree that cbeebies is your friend - don't feel guilty, it's not forever. I remember getting a few cardboard boxes (too much amazon shopping) and putting them in the living room floor with some wooden spoons and the packaging paper then letting DS1 go nuts while I had a lie down sat with head in a bowl Kept him happy for ages!
Fingers x this stage doesn't last long.

Aw thanks both!! I just keep wondering how much TV is too much! We usually go out twice a day every day - it seems to keep both of us sane - but just not sure if I'll be able to keep that up!

Chunderella sorry to hear you still feel crap. Is it still sickness for you or general exhaustion?

Poor you. I had similar as Dd was 18 months when I was pregnant with Ds. We had a pop up travel cot which I put toys in so that I could confine her happily if I needed to rush to the bathroom . I knew that she was happy, but more importantly, safe then. We also did a lot of simple jigsaws, though she was a little older than you toddler. Hopefully it won't last long. Good luck!

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I'm 13 weeks and just wanted to say you'll get through it, I've been looking after my (just) 2yo and 3yo and it was exhausting and nappy changes with nausea are horrible but you'll be feeling better soon, hang in there.

Thanks Fresh! Unfortunately she would go mad if I left her in a travel cot but might have to try it anyway if I get to the puking stage. Thanks Mother, so are you feeling better now? Hope so! I feel so guilty already for giving her less attention but then I guess she'll have to get to it anyway!

You just get through it, good practice for when baby arrives and DC1 will have to entertain themselves a bit more!

I am 25 weeks with a 2 year old, and dont feel quite so crappy anymore but get really tired mid afternoon, I try to have a rest when he naps.

Glad you don't feel too bad, Chicken. Arh just willing this trimester to hurry up! Did anybody end up telling lots of people they were pregnant early on? I told quite a few people last time as had to keep cancelling things but would prefer to avoid if poss. Already told two friends though and wonder whether I should tell more close mum friends so they know why I'm so grumpy and crap!

I told people who I saw a lot, and who would probably guess!
One mum friend who we do a lot with, just so I could say 'I need to throw up can you keep an eye on DS!'

I feel your pain - I'm 13 weeks with a 2 year old and have been sick almost day from 6 weeks, not to mention the nausea, tiredness and headaches. I constantly feel
guilty for not spending quality time with her - she's watching lots of telly, we're out less and I feel she's playing up a bit more for a variety of reasons (being indoors, less stimulated, and me not having the energy to be as consistent with behaviour stuff). I'm also using the buggy when we do go out, which she isn't keen on, as I don't have the energy to keep up with her on foot or scooter! I'm hoping a few months of this won't have a long term effect, but I do worry! So no words of wisdom I'm afraid, just fancied a moan too!

Daily, not day - oops!

Oh, I also told one friend at a fairly early stage (who I see regularly) and that really helped.

Poor you Twittwooo, sounds like you're having it really tough. I totally hear you on the guilt thing. The only thing I keep thinking is that hopefully it's going to benefit them in the long run, to have a little sibling to play with!

Sounds like it helped you to tell people, Chicken, I think I might tell a few more friends when I see them.

I was pregnant with DS by the time DD was 12 months and I suffered constant nausea and was sick at least 3 times a day for the first 4/5 months.
My saving grace was that she still had a long nap which meant I could sleep at the same time. Yes to a bit of TV while you lie down on sofa. Yes to having a safe place such as a playpen or a cot so you can leave them somewhere safe quickly if you need to run to be sick. I kept a few special toys there that she only saw at that time so she didn't mind being left for 5 mins or so.
Our daily routine went a bit like this:

DH did breakfast for DD whilst I had biscuits in bed, then threw them back up!
I got DD dressed when DH went to work, then we would go out for an hour or so from around 9:30-10:30. More if I felt up to it. Park / library / swimming (bizarrely I felt less sick in the swimming pool than anywhere else!), or just a walk.
We'd get home, I'd give DD a snack and then have a rest for 30 mins or so on sofa while she watched Cbeebies whilst playing in the front room.
I'd do puzzles or read to her (low level activity "playing") and then get her lunch at midday.
We'd both go to bed (separately) for a nap from around 1-3:30.
30 mins or so playing in the garden, then in for an hour of play while I rested. She was quite an independent child so I could lie on sofa while she played with Happyland, building blocks, her walker etc. She would also happily sit looking at books on her own for up to 20 mins.
By then, DH was home and we'd survived another day!

Also, don't feel bad about using ready meals if you can't face cooking. Little Dish / Annabel Karmel dishes aren't too bad for the little ones and while I'd much rather cook our meals from scratch, it just wasn't going to happen while I felt rough and at least this way I knew she was getting a nutritionally balanced supper each day. It was only for a few weeks.

Thanks so much Westcountry that's really helpful to see how you got through it! Will be looking to do something similar, now if only I can get her to nap longer than half an hour a day!

Yes I actually found I felt ok during DD's swimming lesson this week! Also it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one resorting to easy food. She's pretty fussy and won't really eat proper food so tends to have a little buffet type thing but have discovered she likes tinned stuff like beans and sausages so been using that quite a lot. Needs must!

So feeling your pain. 8 weeks and 18 month old DD who I would describe as fairly high maintenance (can't imagine where she gets that from....). I tend to have a couple of ok days followed by a couple of days where being vertical alone seems too much of a challenge. However needs must and reluctantly i Have found that if I try to get friends round with another toddlers in the afternoon then the children entertain each other and I can have a general woe is me session. For this reason alone I have told almost everyone I know that i'm pregnant! Whilst the idea of entertaining appalls me, distraction actually helps massively.

Other tips, marmite on toast is getting me through the morning, but i have to eat something else more substantial by 9.30 or it sets the sickness tone for the whole day. I have also been pureeing my food as a way toneat protein (any meat sauces) etc. Helps me get them down my throat without gagging- simple plainish sauces with pasta are my staples (also work well for DD). And I literally peg my nose for nappy time.

Good luck, it's tough so take it a day at a time. And don't worry about TV time. I would so utilise that if only my DD would sit still enough for a single episode of anything .

Aw thanks so much bunpity! It really helps to know others are in the same situation though at the same time I don't want anyone else feeling as crap as I do! I think you're right about getting food in early morn, I really need to make a concerted effort to do this. Like the pureeing tip too altho preparing food full stop makes me feel wretched! Glad it has helped you to tell lots of mum friends as think that might be the only way I'm going to get through this! I just can't stand staying in all time but just feel to ill to go out all the time at the mo so definitely going to start inviting people round more!