just a little scared .

[cheesecurry86]

Hello ladies, I am 33 week's pregnant with a little boy thing is i am starting to doubt my self and think maybe I wont be such a good mummy , he's my first viable pregnancy after losing my daughter seven years ago , I got polycystic ovary s and a short cervix so have had alot of complications with this pregnancy after all I didnt think I would get a chance to be a mummy is this a typical thought amongst first time mummy's x

Yeah I think so! I'm 40+ weeks, much wanted child after several losses.
Am bricking it!
Doesn't help my sister talking about much wanted only children being prone to diva-dom and weight issues "if you're not careful" eek, do I need a psychology degree now!?!

i never thought i would feel like this though , i started crying over a peice of potato i dropped on the floor lol then went into hysterical laughter , hormones definitly then comes the moment of absolute hopelessness thinking things that should not be thought by any one maybe i just need a good slap round the face a be told to get on with it x

Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry for your loss op. You'll be a good mummy. You'll NEVER think you are but you will be. I wasn't terribly worried about it before DS was born but think about it a lot nowadays (he's 9 months). I reckon I average a 5/10 on good days but I'm the best Mum he's every had and I'm the only he's got so.....chin up and carry on!

Thank you, I love him more than anything already and I know itsup to me to be the damn best mummy I can be x I do need to stop worrying and love every moment I have of him even the sleepless nights, tantrums etc so thank you again for your help xx

No one needs to love the sleepless nights!!

I think it's very easy to put yourself under huge pressure. As PP said, there will inevitably be parts of parenthood that suck. And it's ok to think that some of it is hard and scary and stressful and just horrid.

I think it's that part that makes the rest of it feel that much more worthwhile. So don't feel 'obliged' to enjoy everything - give yourself leave to think 'this has been a crappy day' As above, you'll be his Mummy and he'll love you whatever.

It's also some of the scary stories.
I'm due now. But have been told I won't be able to celebrate Xmas in 3 months time because I'll have a baby (not wild parties- I mean a roast dinner and a tree with baubles on. The basics. Apparently ill be wild eyed in my pj's all day every day still).
I don't want to be a rose tinted idiotic ftm but I just don't know what to believe.

You'll definitely be able to celebrate Christmas! In fact it will be lovely. I had a terrible 3 weeks when DS was first born and then it was absolutely great. Not every minute of every day, but mostly. I'm not sure what telling scary stories to a 40 week pregnant woman is supposed to achieve.It's just patronising. It's not as if you can just change your mind! Not give birth! Not get woken up!
I definitely prefer your chances with baubles with a three month old than mine with a 1 year old. For what it's worth my DS was born 3 days before Christmas and we still managed a bit of cheer!

It's perfectly normal to have wobbly moments. I know I did. I remember the first few days in hospital after he was born thinking how can they expect me to do this?! I was absolutely sleep deprived and had a good cry over a dirty nappy at 3 am one night. A few weeks on it was a but easier and a few months it's easier and enjoyable!

You’re going to do your best and that's all you can possibly do.