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Baby is 5months & I'm pregnant.

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Jenny1231990 · 17/09/2014 10:30

Ok last night I did a test as I was late. Darkest line ever came up so did another and yep I'm pregnant. I'm happy, my partner is over the moon.
I wanted another but wasn't counting on it being so quick. We were being careful.
Anyway I have a 5 year old, 5 month old and pg, I feel guilty! Will I cope. Is it fair on my baby? I feel like I'm not allowed to be happy cos it's so soon. I'm worried about what family/people will say. Our children are all loved and cared for and this baby would be no different. Will this damage my body as would it have healed by now? Argh I don't know. I don't know how to feel I'm in shock. Please help.
I do feel blessed as it took us 2 years to fall with our last x

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Passthebiscuitspls · 17/09/2014 10:42

Sounds like a big shock to me! But judging by your agonising wait for your middle one then I'd say it's a blessing! Saves trying again hey! ;)

It sounds to me like once the shock has worn off you will be thrilled. You will cope with three, it will be fine. Deep breaths.... And congratulations!!

FoodieMum3 · 17/09/2014 10:49

I think after a week or two you'll be excited. IME pregnancy is always a shock, no matter what the gap or even if it's planned or not. Or maybe that's just me

I hope you manage to get rest and keep well x

AllotmentQueen · 17/09/2014 10:54

Your baby won't know any different! . Mine was 7 mths when I found out I was pg - my two boys are so incredibly close and have such an amazing relationship. They've never known any different.

Don't feel guilty - enjoy it!

LizzieMint · 17/09/2014 10:58

My baby was 5.5 months when I fell pregnant (we were ttc, just didn't expect it to happen first time!), you'll be fine! Expect lots of 'ooh was it planned' type comments, closely followed by 'you must be mad' when you say it was! It's been brilliant for us, they are so close (now aged 8 and 7) and you completely skip any sibling rivalry because the baby never remembers the new baby not being there. Bloody hard work for the first year or so though, but get through that and you'll be flying.
Congratulations!

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Jenny1231990 · 17/09/2014 11:34

Thank you all for taking the time to reply. My son is 5 and is amazing with his baby sister no jealousy at all. So I was worried that having another baby would cause my daughter to become jealous. Your right though she won't really remember any different.
Just can't believe it to be honest. I am blessed.
My oh doesn't care what other people say but I do worry.
I had all the 'was she planned' comments when I was pg with my daughter. I did say I'm just not telling anybody and il wait for them to realise ha x thank you all means a lot

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hartmel · 17/09/2014 11:51

I got pregnant again when DS was 4 month old.. He is now 12 month old and I'm 35 weeks pregnant..

Honestly, there where days where I regretted being pregnant so quick. As I had days where I just wanted to sleep. Was sick between 6-10 weeks. Then second trimester I didn't even feel pregnant at all so I could spend a lot of time with DS and now I PGP it is hard. But I'm looking forward when little one is born..

Not once in this pregnancy have I heard a comment "was it planned" instead I got comments where them self have kids very close in age and how they loved it. Or "it will be hard in the beginning but sooo worse it later when they are older"

If you will get negative comments just ignore them.

Congrats and all the best

albertgirl · 17/09/2014 11:56

Congratulations! If your body wasn't ready for it, you wouldn't have got pregnant - I think Mother Nature is pretty clever when it comes to things like that! I bet it will be tough, but you'll cope, we always do ?? I don't have experience of it myself, but a close friend has 8 month old twins and, while she's finding it challenging, it's not unmanageable, and the relationship between the 2 girls is lovely to see. Good luck, and just ignore any thoughtless comments xx

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Jenny1231990 · 17/09/2014 12:08

Yes I guess that's true. If it's meant to be it will be. Luckily I had a fairly straight forward birth with my daughter, but I think it's the whole giving birth part that is worrying me.
I want to jump for joy and think sod everyone but something is holding me back, I want to cry but I can't. I'm suffering with the flu at the moment and also haven't long got over shingles and in the back of my mind I'm worrying that that may have harmed baby.
I'm lucky I have a partner who works from home most days so I have his support. Which is fab. It's nice to hear people have gone through something similar and coped. I'm dreading seeing the midwife again. What will she think of me :(

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beepbeep · 17/09/2014 12:13

I had 3 DCs under 3, there was a little bit of jealousy but nothing major, now the eldest is 8, the youngest 5, they are all very close and don't remember life without each other. It was hard work, but just make sure you get a good bedtime routine ASAP with the eldest then we found the next ones fitted in with it. Good luck & congratulations, you'll be great!

beepbeep · 17/09/2014 12:17

Your midwife will be pleased for you! My sil was pregnant again when her youngest was 3 months, unplanned as her DS had been ivf due to her DH meant to being being infertile due to previous chemo, it was a shock for everyone & a few eyebrows were raised(dr asked if it was def his!!). They are very close but with family support coped fine.

The midwife should be able to put your health concerns at ease.

AMF88 · 17/09/2014 13:23

Oh how lovely! It's fantastic to have a sibling so close in age!!

Womens bodies are incredible, so providing you look after yourself, yes you will absolutely be fine, congratulations x

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Jenny1231990 · 17/09/2014 18:09

Hopefully everyone will be happy and not judge. I'm lucky that my son is a good sleeper. In a nice routine and so is my daughter already, she will be going into her own room within the next 2 months. I agree routine will have to be key, il have to get organised. I think once the shock has worn off I will be okay :) do you think it's best to wait a week or 2 before seeing a dr? I think I'm only 4/5weeks x thanks all x

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 17/09/2014 18:12

Ahh this is lovely news! Especially as you seem to have had a bit of a time with it ttcing no.2. Just think how close the two youngest will be! So lovely!

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Jenny1231990 · 17/09/2014 20:11

Thank you, now I've had Bit of time to sit and think about it. I am pleased and it's meant to be. We waited so long for our 2nd all the months of heartbreak and finally it happened for us, now my little girl will have someone to grow with and learn together with a wonderful big brother to took out for them.
I just want to say thank you too everyone for your kind words it helped me through and see what's important, you are all fab.

Other people's opinions and comments come bottom of the list unless positive of course x xxxx

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Cannotbelieveit · 17/09/2014 20:11

This was me last year! (Without the older DC tho)

Conceived DS2 when DS1 was 4 months old and now I have a 17 month old and a 4 month old.

You'll be fine honestly.

Psmith83 · 17/09/2014 20:36

I am the oldest of 3, my youngest sister is only 2.5 yeas younger than me. We're all super close because of the lack of age gap. I feel really lucky that we're so close together.

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Jenny1231990 · 18/09/2014 15:14

Lovely to hear from the opposite side thank you. I used internet strip type tests before around 5 of them and all dark. These were the ones I had left over from TTC my daughter. I've bought a clear blue digi today and pregnant 3+ comes up I'm not sure how long that makes me I guess 5-6weeks I'm not sure of the exact date of last period.
I'm feeling really positive thanks to you all and my oh, he's so excited but this will be our last and we are happy with that. Perfect.
Just trying to get the courage to call the midwife now xx

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