first baby and lonley! 32+4

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Im 20 years old soon to be 21, and I fell pregnant early this year. I was only with my current partner for 3 months after I found out I was pregnant. Then after a while I realized he was being distance with me, I feel totally on my own in this pregnancy as hes always going with his mates and hes being messaging other girls. I have been warned hes a ladys man and a player, and as ive cried so much over him and me being pregnant my mum dislikes him now.. and my friends dont want to know since ive fallen pregnant andmy mum Is no help atall to me.. everytime I need something he doesnt reply, ive always worked before getting pregnant own car and everything now im stuck in my flat on £50 a week far from myhome town and dont see anybody there what can I do? Ive done all the baby shopping on my own so far

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Are there any local services you can access? Try your local sure start or children's centre. They may be able to advise and/or support you. Also try going on net mums under their 'meet a mum' section. You can meet other mums and mums to be in your local area.

Is it possible to move closer to home? Or back with your mum?

As far as the partner goes, by the sounds of it you may have to go through the proper routes (CSA) to gain any financial support from him. Have you tried having a serious conversation with him? Or your mum or cluse frudnds fir that matter? may be worth visiting the CAB (Citizens Advice Bureau) for some legal advice. Pregnancy can be a difficult time even when planned and with support around you. Think trying to find someone on your side is your first step.

Good luck.

Most areas have family nurse partnership projects for young mums unsure of age range that covers ask midwife to refer it's a 2yr intensive support package from a family nurse (qualified health visitor with extra training) and well worth being involved in.

Look at local mum and baby/toddler groups many welcome pregnant ladies my local church one is actually called tots n dots to encounter pregnant women (it's not a religious group just run by church goers no requirement to attend church though)

Sure start will have some groups and often do an under 21 group for mums and also will have other groups running

Pop along to local library and church coffee mornings alot of older folk go but they love a baby - good for a chat, done advice, some of them may be lonely and welcome the company

Hi i am 21 and 29 weeks pregnant i am by myself my baby's dad dont want to know and my friends are to intrested in partying to give me a second thought. I am lucky as i have my mum near by but she works full time and looks after my disabled sister. So i know what it like to feel lonely but i just keep on telling myself that first of all i am not alone because i have someone with me all the time and that it will all be worth it in the end when i have my little girl and we can spend all our time together xx

Do you have sure start centres near by. When I was pregnant withy
First our sure start centre ran a mum and mum to be group for under 23s. I met lots of friends in a similar
Position to myself and found it very helpful and something to look forward to each week.