Are your midwives this disorganised?

[ElleDubloo]

My midwife booked me a 34-week antenatal appointment today, at the local health centre. So I left work early, commuted 1.5 hours to get there, to find that the centre was closed! I called the hospital in case she'd messed up the location. But the hospital didn't have an appointment for me either. In my antenatal notes she'd clearly written it down for the same date and time and location I had in my diary.

I don't have her number, and the generic community midwives number wasn't responding.

And while flipping through my antenatal notes, I lost my Oyster card. Grr.

All-in-all a bad afternoon. But I'm home now. Going to brew some chicken soup and try to relax.

Mine is. She hasn't missed an appointment yet but is consistently 15-20 minutes late Even when I'm the first appointment of the day.
Never has the right paperwork and never gives me a pot to pee in for next app.
She's nice but so scatty.

Mine totally forgot I existed after I had spoken to her on the phone 3 times. I had to chase up my booking in appointment when I got to 11 weeks and she said she's forgotten me. Then when I got to my dating/NT scan they said she hadn't bought my notes in - she came running in frantically whilst I was int he waiting room with the notes. Then when I looked at them later she had typed my husbands's ethnicity in as African even though she had met him and had ticked the white British box on the hand-written form. My husband found that hilarious!

My first one before I moved was awful. She ticked that I didn't speak English, made me an appointment that I later found didn't exist (like your example), got my weight and height wrong, ramping up my BMI, and wrote down a load of irrelevant shit about how I was abused as a child and smoked weed as a teenager. She originally ticked that I currently smoke cannabis but corrected herself very judgey of me, but I did live in a "bad" sort of area (read: cheap rent) and I wonder whether she was ticking boxes with muscle memory. New one is much nicer and always sees me early!
Ask to change if you don't like her.

I'm kinda bemused that you have "your" midwife. In my first pregnancy I never saw the same midwife twice and can't imagine it'll be different this time. So I had a mix of nice / dismissive / rubbish / keen etc.

Do you live in the country? I have a friend who lives in the sticks and she got the same one all the way through which I think would be lovely (if you like them, that is. Being stuck with a rubbish one wouldn't be ideal!).

I'm living in the same house as when I had dc1 and last time saw a different mw every time. This time the same one? So no idea!
Also, can not get in touch with her for love nor money. Have to ring labour ward if there's anything happening otherwise I'd have no one to ask!

I live in a small city in the uk. Currently 30 weeks and I've had the same midwife the whole way through, and will do for the rest of my pregnancy. She's lovely, organised and efficient and I haven't had any complaints so far. There are some good ones out there...

Mine failed to show up for a home visit a few weeks ago. Took two days for an apology and I still don't understand the reason why. She's usually at least an hour late.

Mine use to tell me off because is kept forgetting to buy a pot to pee I from the chemist. She use to give me the stick to pee directly on... When I finally got round to buying one, they were giving them away for free at the hospital! Gah.

I live in a pretty big town about half an hour outside London and I would have had the same midwife all the way through, if I hadn't moved house.

Mine was but actually they were fantastic during birth and after care so I figure those are the important skills so willing to forgive disorganisation as it know we can't all do everything and I would rather a decent midwife when I needed then one who can tick boxes and be on time