2nd baby, no pregnant friends, bit lonely

[Isabella24]

Anyone else feel the same?

7 months pg with DC2, and feeling a bit fed up. NCT friends had their second babies a couple of years ago. Other mum friends from nursery/school have finished having babies.

I've had a really tough pregnancy with illness/complications and while friends do sympathise, it feels a bit like I'm boring them/they've forgotten just how hard pregnancy can be.

There seem to be more boozy meals out than ever before, and they're not fun for obvious reasons. Sick of being the driver!

I feel like they see me as a boring, moany party pooper. Maybe I am but I'm feeling pretty unsupported and isolated.

I know I'll meet other mums at baby groups etc when baby's here, but it feels a long way off.

Anyone else? Or am I being pathetic?!

I was in your position. DS1 was 8 so none if my friends were at the same life stage as me. I met friends at aquanatal classes and pregnancy yoga. We're still really good friends 2.5 years later and quite a few of us are all pregnant at the same time now :)

Why not try MN and net mums to meet others in your area? I met a couple of other mums to be when pregnant with my first.

I'm feeling the same with this second pregnancy - have just joined an aqua natal class to hopefully meet other mums and am going to try a local Nct bumps and babes group to see if there's anyone there!

Pregnancy yoga was good for me for meeting people, and doing something positive for me (didn't find pregnancy easy).

Bit like this with my 1st ... medical reasons mean I'm 3 years or so behind chums. They're all rediscovering dates and pubs as I am shimmying away from it. They're all excited but I feel out of sync.
I've joined NCT and they have local baby and bump clubs to help me meet people. Have been doing yoga etc to meet ladies at the same phase.

Oh god Isabella can I be your friend?!?! I could have written your post. 7 months pg with 2nd, no-one else is pregnant in my circle of friends this time. I'm miserable! I have headaches every day and I'm shattered and I feel like everyone expects me to just get on with it. My 4yo is lovely but still hard work. My job is so demanding! I'm very isolated too. I feel like a whinge bag 24/7! But pregnancy is bloody hard!

Thanks for all the replies, much appreciated.
Vicky5910 Yes, be my friend! It's hard isn't it? The other day I mentioned to a friend on a text that I was having a lousy week. When we met up, she asked what had happened. I explained how exhausted and ill I was feeling, how DS wasn't getting the best of me and I felt guilty, how I was behind with work etc etc, and she said oh, just a bit tired then. Like she was hoping for something significant and none of that counted!
Also I sympathise with the headaches- I get them too and they knock me out for at least a day. Grr.
You're not anywhere in the London area are you?!

Nowhere near London I'm afraid!
I get that from my friends too; and my own mother! If it's not a hospital trip or an actual named condition no-one is bothered that I feel like poop. I'm going to need a bucket full of patience to get through the next 8 weeks!
My poor DD isn't getting the best of me either, though I do really try with her as she is a wonderful little pal. Sometimes I just want to sit and do nothing, and that's hard for her!

I'm in a fairly similar situation. Currently 19 weeks with 2nd. We moved a few months ago and don't really know anyone, plus none of my friends from where we used to live are pregnant. I'm a bit worried that I'm gonna have nobody to hang out with during my mat leave!

Me too! I'm 6 hours away from family and a lot of my friends aren't quite at baby stage yet or are far beyond it. I do have a lovely DH but it's our first and I'm not sure he understands it isn't all glowing, same with some friends too.

Only 5 weeks to go so not long. Might try and get to some yoga/aquanatal now I'm off work I guess.

Lucky we have MN! X

Times like these I feel so lucky to be able to rely on my mother! While friends all seem so wrapped up in alcohol etc, shes always happy to sit in and watch movies! Pregnancy truly does make you realise the true friends in life! Besides, once your baby arrives, he/she will be the only 'friend' youll ever need! X