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Snoring partner - can I boot him out of our room?!

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kkllww · 11/09/2014 16:45

I'm only 19 weeks pregnant but my husband's snoring is driving me nuts and making me so moody! For the past 6-7 weeks it's been awful - I wake up a couple of times to pee and then his incessant snoring keeps me awake for ages - I get so annoyed that I end up jabbing him with my elbow or hitting him in the back; eventually he has to decamp to the spare room.
Can't believe I've got potentially another 20 odd weeks of this torture...i'm tempted to tell him to sleep in the spare room for the next few months! Is anyone else suffering this?

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squizita · 11/09/2014 17:17

Many people sleep seperately as they get bigger in pregnancy anyway, things like the many loo trips, the earthquake caused by rolling over, 101 pillows propping you up and the fact you might snore yourself.

Could you use some of these reasons as an 'excuse' so that he is not upset but you get some sleep? Or would he be terribly offended if you said "pregnancy makes me more tired than usual and you snore, would you mind using the spare room more often now?" My DH snores and was fine with that. :)

mrshjb · 11/09/2014 18:53

I could have written your post myself. I have had many breakdowns because like you say I have get up so many times in a night to wee, if he wakes me snoring as well I really don't feel like I've had any sleep. It's worse when his snoring won't stop no matter how many times I poke him, tap him, bounce around etc etc, then I lie awake for hours listening to him.

He's slept on the couch a few times when it gets really bad because we don't have a spare bed. I would definitely get him to move in to the spare room if we had one!

mrshjb · 11/09/2014 18:54

Oh and I'm 20 weeks so also got a long way to go!

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kkllww · 11/09/2014 19:16

I think I'll definitely have to try that squizita; i can't continue with this lack of sleep. The only thing is he complains about the room being too light and bed being hard when he's slept in there - can't see him being too thrilled, but needs must!

Mrshjb - you sound a lot more gentle than me: I start out poking but then get really mad and he gets a hard elbow jab in the back! Hope you can find a solution...maybe earplugs are worth a try??

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Memphisbelly · 11/09/2014 19:19

Could you get him a pregnancy pillow to stop him rolling onto his back? My dh is also keeping me away and the threat of buying a futon for him to sleep on has been dished out...... He now lies on his side and it stopped his snoring but I expect he will be on the sofa in a few months

mrshjb · 11/09/2014 20:33

I have earplugs, it's just that loud they often don't drown him out! I've also threatened him with buying a pull out bed! He says it's a waste of money....!!

It always used to just be when he was on his back but now the devil man snores when he's on his sides as well!! It's a shame he's such a deep sleeper or he'd move himself seen as I get up sooo many times a night!!

Would you ever sleep in the spare room kk?

ohthegoats · 11/09/2014 21:27

I've moved to the spare room!

He doesn't snore, but he's a light sleeper, and I'm breathing heavily, doing three point turns to move around, getting up 10+ times a night to wee. I just feel more comfortable in my own bed so I can do those things as much as I like.

WestEast · 11/09/2014 21:32

I bought a 'snore ring' from holland and barrats, was about a tenner. It turned my stupidly loud DP's snores into the occasional snuffle. I was about to smother him

OneLittleToddleTerror · 11/09/2014 21:37

DH has been sleeping in the spare room for a while now. There is no point waking each other up. I couldn't go back to sleep with his snoring after I woke up. He said my frequent loo trip affected his sleep. Also when DD was a baby he slept in the spare bed for a few months too after paternity leave. He couldn't stay awake for work. And I could catchup with sleep during the day.

It would be silly not to make use of the spare bed when you have one!

ohthegoats · 11/09/2014 21:48

Yep, after baby arrives and he's gone back to work, boyfriend will be in spare room as much as he wants/needs to be, until kid is in own room. Both our rooms are equally nice, with good beds and blackouts - was planned intentionally.

Jaffakake · 11/09/2014 22:24

I read somewhere recently that the most successful marriages are with people who sleep apart when necessary.

I bought a great selection pack of earplugs from the snorestore which has helped me find ones that work for me, but tbh we sleep apart at least a couple of nights a week. Sometimes his snoring, sometimes my insomnia caused by worrying about stuff, now I'm 11 weeks I think it'll get more frequent.

With no 2 on the way & living in a 3 bed house I think I've figured out a way I can always sleep somewhere else if need be.

Sleep is too precious in this house!

I'd recommend having somewhere else to sleep readily available and if you find yourself never in you 'own' bed, chuck him out once in a while.

LBNM19 · 12/09/2014 08:19

We sleep separately at the moment and have done for a while. I just can't sleep at night constantly turning, sore legs etc. I'm 34 weeks now and can't think if anything worse than having him in the bed to lol xx

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kkllww · 12/09/2014 09:05

Glad i'm not alone in suffering this then :)
I'm intrigued by the 'snore ring' you bought, westeast...might look into that one. I was researching sleep clinics for him but was gobsmacked by the prices; upwards of a grand!! Think one of us moving to the spare room at least some of the time is more practical...

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kkllww · 12/09/2014 09:06

Meant to add he's already tried nose strips, throat sprays etc to no avail...

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broodysnoopstie · 12/09/2014 12:29

Just to say my dp snores terribly and I used to move to the spare room but he's recently lost a stone and is now in 'normal bmi' and snoring is 100 times better! There is hope

mrshjb · 13/09/2014 07:03

My DH is slim and has also tried sprays, strips and vibrating bracelets etc and none of them work. He gets worse when he has a cold too. Part of me wonders if he has always been this bad but I have slept a lot better before getting pregnant and didn't notice the same!!

Had a quick look at the ring on holland and barratt but not entirely convinced after the bracelet he tried. Is it another one that's supposed to vibrate when you snore?!

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