Would I be stupid to do this?

[Tory79]

Ds 3rd ibirthday soon, I'll be just over 38 weeks.

We are currently living at my mums, 3 hours away from dh who's still at our house, as there is overrunning major building work going on.

Dh is due to have dsd the weekend of ds birthday. She lives 3.5 hours away from our house, 5 hours away from my mums.

I am pondering doing the 3 hour drive back for ds birthday weekend. We can stay with Pil who live 5min away. I'd go up fri afternoon, come back sun afternoon. Realistically if I don't do that we won't see dh and dsd that weekend. I know ds won't really care, but everyone else will

Both dh and dm think I'd be stupid to do that kind of drive so heavily pregnant. I agree it's not ideal, but think it would be really sad not to all see each other that weekend....

Would it be possible for dh and dsd to come to you for the same length of time. Although its a longer journey they would be more fit for it. It cud b a bit risky for you being so close to your due date and tiring.

In theory it would, but it would mean them getting here about 10-11pm Fri and then having to leave about 12 on the Sunday (which is ds birthday). DH does a LOT of driving as it is and I'm loath to add to it, when effectively they'd only be here for a day really.

They came down here the last weekend that dh had her, but as that was in school holidays he didn't take her home until Monday, which was fine.

What about someone else going withyou and possibly sharing the driving?

No, it's really not a good idea. It's too much driving, sitting in the car when you are that close to your due date, it's too risky going that distance on your own, with a child. If you start labour part way there it's not going to be a good experience for DS.

It is DS's birthday, have a lovely time with your Mum and skype DH/DSD and he can have 'another' birthday when you all get together.

I think it's mean to expect either child to spend that much time in the car for such a small time spent at the destination.

I don't know about 'mean' latte, surely it's just life sometimes although if course not in anyway ideal! Dsd already has to spend 3.5+ hours in the car every time she comes down to us! she's well used to it and perfectly happy watching dvds. Ds isn't so used to long journeys, but frankly if
he's given my iPad he'll think he's died and gone to heaven and won't
care

rachie I'm sure my mum would have happily done it! but if she came up there'd be nowhere for her to sleep as we'd all be crowded in to my pils.