I'm 21 from Mansfield, Notts and due 21.10.06 just looking for anyone who may want to chat even if you don't live in my area would be grateful of the conversation.

[MarieHannah]

Hi i'm 21 and live in Mansfield, Notts. I am due to have my first child (baby boy) on the 21st October 2006. I live with my partner and have 2 dogs. I have visited this site loads of times and thought i would find it useful if i started up a new thread for anyone who would like to chat about anything really.

Marie

Hi Marie,
I'm 23 and live in Aldershot, Hampshire. I am expecting my first baby too and I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo excited!!! I'm not due until January so still have a little while left. I have to stop myself getting too carried away buying things. My DP has made me promise not to find out what we're having but I wish I knew.
Michelle x

Hi Marie keep an eye open on Mumsnet for Laughalot she is in Mansfield and is expecting her second child in January!!

Hi Nearlythree

thanks for the idea of a memory box, have spoke to my dp about it and he thinks its a great idea too. cant beleive we didnt think of it earlier!!!

We have painted Jack's room in powder blue with a border that goes around the top of the wall (the border is yellow with jungle animals on it). then we have stuck up winnie the pooh wall stickers on one of the walls and a winnie the pooh growth chart on another wall. we're not sticking to winnie pooh we just want a bit of everything in there. have left 2 other walls free for photos and anything else we see. we've put in there 1 sofa, 1 changing/bath unit, 2 chest of drawers (one of the drawers are ours but whilst we have his cot in our room we need to put them in there) then we've got a nice shaggy rug, a pay gym, bouncer etc!!! it looks great to say we did everything on a tight budget!!!

Marie

Kiskidee

Hi, thanks for that, will look on breast and bottle feeding threads on mn

Marie

BendyB

Thanks, will do

Marie

Michelle24

Hi

Have you felt your baby kick yet? i love it when my baby kicks me (although its getting more and more painful by the day when he jabs me in the ribs!!!)

How you finding your pregnancy?

What makes your dp not want to find out the sex? we werent fussed about it but decided to find out. (my dp cried when we found out!!!

Have you thought about the birth or your feeding plans yet?

Marie

Peachygirl

Thanks for that?

Marie

Marie
I live in Mansfield, if you ever fancy a coffee, maybe we could meet up with laughalot? Have spoken tp her on ttc threads but not met in person. I am 31 (gosh i sound so old compared to you!!) and me and dh are currently trying for our first. Am off to Kings Mill on Thursday for operation which will hopefully give my body the kickstart it needs! Although I am not a mum (yet!) have been coming to mn for about 2 years now, and i couldnt manage without all the support and friendship i have found during that time.
Kind Regards,
Pussycatmomma.........btw, whereabouts in mansfield are you? im just off westbank avenue off chessie road

Hi Marie.
I too am looking forward to the birth of my first, also a little boy. He is due 6th Nov and we are calling him Alfie Jack. I live with my partner and we have three cats (although i would love a dog). I am so excited about holding my little one but very scared about labour but its all natural im sure. Anyway its nice to see these threads they are really positive and its good to talk to people in the same boat and those who are more experienced. x

Hi, Marie,

Glad you like the idea of a memory box! . Jack's room sounds lovely, and very practical too. We haven't really decorated our ds' room yet but I might go for a seaside theme.

I loved it when my babies kicked too!

Marie, can you use some baby boys' clothes? My ds is growing so quickly he's hardly worn most things, and he even has some winter things he's never going to wear as they are too small already! If you'd like them CAT me through th Contact Another Talker link at the top of the page.

Hi Everyone,

Just letting you know that Jack decided that he wanted to make an early appearance and was born on the 27th September 2006 at 00:43am. Had loads of problems at the hospital (really bad experience). Firstly my waters broke 7:40am 26.09.06 so went to hospital they checked me and sent me home which was fine, contractions started 1:30pm 26.09.06 stayed at home till 6:30pm until i could no longer bare the pain, got to hospital they gave me some paracetamol and admitted me onto a ward and sent my partner and mum home after they wrote down their contact numbers so that they could contact them when i went into labour (they said if i didnt have him that night they would induce me 8:30am 27.09.06). at 10pm i was in agony and was told by the midwife to get another bath! so i did. At this point i was sobbing and really distressed. when i came out of bath got in bed but was still in agony so i asked for some pain relief and they gave me pethidine at 11:50pm they didnt even check to see if i was dilated (i hadnt been checked or examined at all since i had been in hospital that afternoon) i specifically stated earlier that i didnt want pethidine if i was more than 4cm dilated. anyway nurse came up and put pethidine in my thigh and just walked off. at 12:05am there was no change to the pain i was having. then at 12:10am i screamed and ranged the buzzer as i felt Jacks head make an appearance! the nurses came took my underwear off and said we need to get her on labour ward now the head is showing. so they wheeled me on the bed sown to the labour ward all the time i was screaming in pain - i asked for pain relief and was told you cant have any your baby will be here in a minute. then the nurse said "marie what is your partners phone number!!!" nearing in mind they were given every phone number under the sun 4 hours earlier. so there i was screaming my home number out. anyway my partner and mum literally just made the birth of Jack (luckily we only live 3 minutes away from hospital) they arrived and helped me through the birth and Jack was born at 00:43am. he was put straight on my chest for skin-to-skin but she didnt cover him with a blanket so he got cold and then he started grunting when he was breathing so he was rushed off to the special care unit. nurse came back 10 minutes later telling us that he was 6lb 1oz and that he was fine and wasnt grunting anymore and was just being kept in special care whilst they took some blood from him and she said he would be by my bed first thing that morning. when i was took back up to the ward after a bath i asked if i could go and see him and was told not until i had had my breakfast after 7am. i couldnt sleep that night and was up at 6am trying to express. finally went down to see him and was greeted with "we thought you would have been down earlier" at that point i froze and seen Jack in the incubator with wires everywhere and needles in his arms and all his hands were brusied where thye couldnt get blood. i just looked at the woman and sobbed. when i calmed down thats when i was told he had got cold at birth and that is why he was in the incubator. i told the woman in special care what i had been told and she was fuming. as you can imagine all i could think of is that my baby had been alone all night. (my partner was going to see him when he left me on the ward in the early hours so when i asked her if he had been in and she said no i was so confused. after sitting with jack for a while i went outside for a breath of fresh air - my mum and ant came round the corner and said whats up and wheres jack? i explained everything to them and then my mum said but that cant be right because we seen the nurse taking Jack up to you in the lift last night thats why my partner didnt visit him beacuse he was coming down in the lift as Jack was going up. at this point i was sobbing even more and just kept thinking if someone turned round and said that this is Jack and we are taking him up to his mum but my son was in special care and hadnt moved all night - surely this must be wrong. so i took my partner and my mum to special care and sobbed again to the woman who explained that jack hadnt left the unit all night and that there were some serious problems here. the nurse in special care rang my ward and explained everything and told them that it was disgusting how things had been communicated between all parties. when i went up to my ward later that day a few midwifes and a manager came to see me and was asking me to tell them about what happened so i did and i just explained that all i wanted was for my son to get better so that we could get home but that i would be complaining about this when i had got home and settled. so overall i have a lot of bad memories and everytime i look at my son, i just imagine him laid in special care on his own on the first night he was born. i love my son to bits and just love staring at him and giving him cuddles. he is doing really well and now weighs 6lb 13oz and is 49 cms long!! still find it really hard to talk about but i find it gets easier the more i do talk about it. but i am determined for this not to happen to anyone else because i have never felt so low in all my life. I intended to breastfeed all through my pregancy but after loads of attempts it just didnt happen. the hospital said it was probably because of all the stress. thinks thats everything (memory still hasnt returned yet) will write again soon.

Jack was born 36+4

Marie

I'm sorry you had a rough birth. My friend is in Mansfield, currently in hospital awaiting a section and the hospital have not been helpful to her at all.
Congrats on the arrival

MarieHannah, what a dreadful experience. Just be relieved that it is all over, and you can spend all the time in the world with Jack and make up for that first night.
Good luck with the first few weeks and let us know how you are doing.

Marie, just caught up with this, how totally awful for you. My dd1 was in special care too, I know how scarey it is, how sad you must feel and how much you love Jack now he is here. I couldn't bfeed either and I know that hurts. If you'd like me to CAT you when you are feeling better let me know, in case you'd like to chat by e-mail, and my offer of the baby clothes still stands if you'd like them.

Enjoy your little one, I know something like thsi hits you hard but one day you will find that you can look back on these early days with wonder and even something like happiness. Meanwhile, take each day as it comes, and be easy on yourself.

congratulations and well done!! so sorry you had to have that experience, hope your little baba will make you feel much better!!

hi marie - i just read this thread and was shocked at your story. glad that everything has worked out well but that must have been terrible for you and your partner. what a shambles from beginning to end.
to you now tho'
xo