Newly Pregnant and scared of everything......

[Puffin75]

Hi everyone, I'm new here and looking for some reassurance...

I'm 38, had 2 previous MCs with my last being a couple of months ago. Before my recent MC I'd had infertility issues for over 2 years and countless procedures to try and find out what was going on. Within this time I wanted nothing more than to have a baby. Fast Forward to May this year and a miracle happened.... I was finally pregnant and naturally, the joy i felt was unbelievable and I was on cloud 9, two days after finding out I started to bleed and i inevitably lost the baby. This was one of the lowest and worst points of my life.

So now I find myself pregnant again 5w + 3 and this time i'm all over the place... i feel anxious, out of control, i dont know if i can cope, do i still like my husband, is he the root of my anxiety etc etc etc. In a nutshell I'm really struggling to get my head around this and have even questioned if i even want a baby.

Any kind words would be really appreciated

You poor thing, you've obviously had a traumatic time, it's probably to be expected that even when you have good news it causes you doubt and anxiety. Maybe it would be a good idea to try and get some counselling to help you manage these feelings.

Thanks for the reply, I do have a counsellor currently as used to have bad Anxiety and it really helps talking to her and normalising everything but i suppose i'm looking for some reassurance from people who have been in the same mindset.

I was in a very similar position to you. Some things that helped:
-Say to your GP or mw you think you're getting "pregnancy anxiety" and is there nhs provision in your area. If not, paying for a couple of CBT sessions (GP can tecommend) totally worth it.
-I found Yoga and hypnotherapy very useful.
-There is a "posifrickentivity" board for ladies pregnant after loss here. We are all very anxious but chatting online helps.

You also need to talk to your DH. Is there anything he has said or done which triggers anxiety: he needs to know. Not that he's done anything bad on purpose or anything but if he doesn't know it will not resolve. My DH is very "positive" and didn't realise that this made my anxiety much worse, I felt it was childlike and burying his head in the sand. After we talked he knew this was a trigger and changed his approach.