First BFP!! but confused by advice

[MrsLovell]

Hi,
My DH and I have been TTC for about 6 months and we just got our very first BFP! We are both very excited but DH doesn't want to tell anyone yet, incase we jinx it. I'm dying to tell someone so that's why I'm here :-).
Also I just wanted to check if advice I got from my doctor's surgery is normal as it contradicts the NHS choices website. I rang the surgery this morning to make an appointment with the doctor (as recommended on NHS choices website). I was told by the receptionist that unless I'm actually ill or don't want to continue with the pregnancy then I don't see a doctor at all, she just booked me an appointment with the midwife for when I am about 8 weeks gone, which is in about 5 weeks time, and until then I just sit tight and wait. She told me that's how it's done now and the website is out of date. Is that your experiance?

I think it varies from surgery to surgery. At ours you have to see a Dr who then refers you which is annoying as I don't have time to go - I'd much rather just book a midwife appointment.

All you need to do is take folic acid avoid food poisoning risks and alcohol and caffeine in large quantities.

Congratulations :)

Thanks!
And apologies as I seem to have accidentally posted this question about a million times... I am a newbie at this forum stuff... Sorry!

Yeah unless you've got a pre-existing health condition that might be affected by pregnancy, there's no need to see the doctor at this early stage. I'm on medication for various things so I went to see my doctor at about 5 weeks to arrange blood tests etc and even then she was a bit surprised to see me! You'll probably see them at about 25 weeks, but possibly not! Midwives are the pregnancy specialists, so you're much better off just seeing them! Doctors are for when things aren't quite right, etc. Congratulations!

Yes, I went straight to midwife. The doctor doesn't doesn't do anything anyway. It's a bit weird at first as you just have to forget about it and carry on as normal. Start taking folic acid but nothing else to do. Congratulations!

Yep it varies, just seeing the MW is fine.
However the receptionist wasn't 100% correct- of course if you have medication or a condition (clotting, previous losses, thyroid, diabetes...) you should see the Dr immediately to check your meds are correct and whether you need extra appointments.
I have to see mine same day as BFP and pick up injections! Yuk! But then I just go to ante natal appointments and don't see the GP until my Whooping Cough jab.

Congratulations! I had exactly the same thing as you OP, rang the doctors when I found out but was just told to make a midwife appointment for 8 weeks . I am now 31+4 and haven't seen a doctor at all, only the midwife and sonographers for scans. The NHS website does have some good info about foods to avoid etc so it's worth paying attention to that. Otherwise it's just a waiting game! Hope it all goes well!

I went straight to midwife too. no need to see the doctor.

Hi Op, re not telling anyone... It's up to you and your DP of course but the reason 'don't tell anyone just in case anything happens' is a load of rubbish in my experience. Sadly, I did miscarry and what was really hard was that nobody knew and I had to carry on like nothing had happened, when the shittest thing in my life had just happened. You have a lot higher chance of it being ok than it not being ok btw so not to worry you. Have a read of this article.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2736074/Why-shatter-pregnancy-taboo-We-told-pregnancies-secret-12-weeks-But-just-means-no-one-shares-pain-goes-wrong.html

I agree with thesmallbear - I told close family and friends and they were a great support (I was frightened after previous losses) ... I told more people later.

At my surgery the receptionist gives you the midwife's phone number and gets the doctor to phone you for a telephone consultation. The midwife just asked if it was my first baby and basic details, got my 12 week scan booked and said she'd call back nearer to 8 weeks for my booking appointment (she never did I had to chase her up and got it at 11 weeks!). The doctor just checked I knew about smoking, alcohol, soft cheese etc. (nothing you can't look up yourself on the NHS website). If you have any medical issues that might be made worse by pregnancy or any questions about whether you can continue any medication you take then I would insist on seeing a doctor, otherwise I think you are fine just waiting for the midwife.

Congrats Mrslovell!
39weeks with 1st and not seen a single doctor ( apart from when I was constipated for almost a week - sorry if TMI). As long as your health Is in order and you're not on any regular meds there's no need to see a doc.
Tell people that you may need to( had to tell few people at work literally straight away as was so excited, and also once the nausea kicked in) the 12 week things just silly!!

Thanks for all the advice guys, it helps a lot. I have had to tell work today because I work in a high risk environment (a microbiology laboratory) so there will have to be adjustments made for me. I want to tell close family now as well and totally agree if things go badly I would rather have help and support from people rather than try to carry on as normal. But DH thinks very differently, he wants to keep it secret just incase, I think he is also worried about my Mum going mental excited and start trying to control things, I agree she can be a little bit mental sometimes but I still need her support, I have tried to reassure DH that his thoughts and feelings about our pregnancy come first though. Even though TTC was a joint decision he is still freaking out a little bit about the reallity of what's happening (so am I) So not sure what's best to do.