Feeling lonely during early pregnancy after 2 previous mc

[Roseylee20]

So I am currently 7+4, been with my
partner for 5 years and had 2 previous mc whilst being with him. Feeling very hormonal this time around, very stressed anxious worried and feel like I am emotionally falling apart. Even feeling teary just writing this. I have got a hematoma with this pg so constantly worried and obviously due to past mc's I feel like I can't get my hopes up or relax yet. I don't feel as though I can talk to anyone about it and feel as though I'm just trying to sail through this on my own. I'm sure my partner thinks I am just a mardy so and so, but I have also been very ill since finding out about this pregnancy. Heart palpitations don't help the situation either. Does anyone else feel the same?

Hey Rosey, I know what you mean about the worry. I had a Mmc earlier this year and now I'm 11 weeks and can't wait until I hit 12 and have my scan, then I'll feel safe. It's hard for DPs to understand how we feel. DH takes the common sense approach that there is very little I could have done to change what happened, or what happens, but I think sometimes he forgets about the pregnancy whereas it's something we have to adapt to every day.

If there's no one in your family you can talk to, then speak to your GP.

The antenatal boards on here are good - you'll probably be on the April 2015 thread with me . There is also a sub-branch of that thread for those of us who know a BFP doesn't necessarily mean we'll get a baby at the end of it.

You are not alone

Hi riverrocks thanks for your message. Your right - I think he just forgets I'm even pregnant and pushes it out of his mind. Whereas I'm thinking about it almost every minute of the day. Although I'm having fatigue anyway, thinking and worrying about all of this makes me sleepy all on it's own. I think il check out that board, thanks for your reassurance, hugs back to you x

There's a thread on this board for pregnancy after loss. Do join we all know how it feels and it's great support! :)

Thanks squizita il try and check that out, thank you x

Hi Rosey

I had a MMC in June. Not preggers again yet, but I know I'll be exactly the same as you once I am. It is absolutely the shitest thing ever to go through.

Have you noticed this thread. I bet you'll get lots of support there.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2165730-Another-shiny-and-new-posifrickintivity-thread-for-pregnancy-after-miscarriage

Thanks thesmallbear il check that out. I'm with you- I also had an MC in June this year. It really is a horrible thing, no matter how early or later on you are. There's a lot of comfort and support around on this site though, I'm so glad I found! I wish you all the best and hope you get the news you want soon!

You poor thing! I had 2 mc's at about 5+4 last year and when I fell pregnant again I almost put my head in the sand to deal with it and wrote off this pregnancy assuming this one would also fail - I turned up to my 12 week scan assuming they would tell me the baby was gone but nope there it was!

Once I got past this it was a bit better but I still would worry as I had cramps etc during the 9 to 15 week period. Even at the 20 week scan I expected the worst but no she's still there kicking like mad.

I'm now coming up for 28 weeks - I still worry - my current obsession is with movement and risk of still birth. I think having the experience of a MC makes you worry more as you are much more aware of what can go wrong.

Feel free to post all your worries and concerns on here - there is always someone who will listen, sympathise and who has probably been through the same experience xx

Thank you kitkat321 congratulations! I think we all give others advice but don't actually listen to it ourselves! I have had 2 mc's around that sort of time too, 5-6 weeks. So each day past that is a blessing at the moment..but still also a massive worry. I think I will be the same as you.. Expecting the worst at each scan. I definately agree that it makes us much more aware, and possibly more informed, so therefore we worry more . I have my first midwifes appointment on Wednesday so I will post again afterwards thanks again and good luck x

Did you get an early scan with this pregnancy?

If not, contact your EPU and arrange one. I was offered one due to my previous MC's and it was nice to get that early check at 7 weeks and see that my bubba was doing well - it also breaks up that horrible 12 week wait for your first scan.

Or if that's not available, I can recommend a private scan just for peace of mind.

Good luck and here's wishing you a very dull and uneventful pregnancy! x

Yes I did- last Thursday at 7+2! waiting for the scan, like you, I expected the worst, when she said "we can see baby here and a strong heartbeat" I just burst into tears! I was walking on clouds for the rest of the day! Early scans are very helpful.. I couldn't of waited until 12 weeks! Thank you again, best wishes back to you