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When did you spill the beans?

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FreckleBee · 04/09/2014 18:30

Hi, I visited the GP this week and was delighted to have my pregnancy confirmed!!
Of course I feel a range of emotions right now but mainly excitement and joy. I'm desperate to tell my parents and siblings whom I'm v close with but I'm not sure if it's too early?
I will tell my close friend and we'll tell parents in law in a few weeks (the latter are out of country at the moment). We won't tell others until our 1st scan.
Could anyone advise me when they told those close to you?
Thank you :)

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FreckleBee · 04/09/2014 18:38

Oh I meant to say I'm 4 weeks.

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WigglyWigglyWoo · 04/09/2014 18:45

Congratulations!

I'm 5 weeks and we've told out parents only at the moment. I have a midwife appointment at 8 weeks and will probably tell close friends and family then. Will make it public after 12 week scan. We made the decision to tell parents because we would want their support if something were to go wrong (had an early miscarriage at 5.5 weeks 2 months ago and they were great).

I haven't seen my GP- do I need to?

DoYouWannaBuildaSnowman · 04/09/2014 18:45

Congratulations!

We told our parents and siblings the day after we found out, at 4 weeks. Then close friends and some of our extended family after the first midwife appointment but before the scan. Everyone else after scan.

I had been intending to wait until we could tell our parents face to face, but was too excited to keep it quiet!

Serafinaaa · 04/09/2014 18:46

I told immediate family at 14 weeks. Haven't told work or anyone else yet! I'm almost 17 weeks.

Only1scoop · 04/09/2014 18:48

Told very close family and best friend at around 8 weeks. Told everyone else around 14 weeks when all results had come bk. In my experience I'd have left telling everyone else a little longer.

Congratulations!!

CointreauVersial · 04/09/2014 18:50

Our 12 week scan was just before Christmas, so I stuck the scan picture in a gift card under the tree, addressed to DM. When she opened the envelope you could have heard the shriek in the next village.

ohthegoats · 04/09/2014 19:16

18 weeks for both sets of parents and my brother, 20+ weeks for anyone else. Almost 37 weeks now and some people still don't know.

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FreckleBee · 04/09/2014 19:17

Thanks for your responses, it's really helpful to hear what others have done.
wigglywigglywoo no I don't think you need to see GP if you already have a midwife appointment, I had to as I don't think you can self refer in Scotland.
Sorry to hear about your previous experience, hope you enjoy your pregnancy.
snowman That's lovely you were so excited, I feel a bit the same but I don't want to spil the beans to my family and then wish I'd waited.
serafinaaa I'll never make it that long without saying! But good for you.

A friend of mine told no one til about 22 weeks and no one guessed!

My brothers birthday is this weekend and I though about getting him an "best uncle" mug or something for him to open later in the evening and that would in turn tell my siblings who will be there. I'd like to tell my parents before this though as want to tell just them if you know what I mean.

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Inbl00m · 04/09/2014 19:32

14 weeks for close family and 16 for everyone else. Didn't want to tempt fate for as long as possible but it got too hard to hide!

Elledouble · 04/09/2014 19:35

I'm six weeks-ish and we haven't told anyone yet. Going to tell my parents at the weekend though (wanted to do it face to face). Everyone else can wait at least til after our 12-week scan.

I feel ready to burst with the secret though! Keep fearing that someone will ask me a question at work and I'll just reply "I'm PREGNANT!"

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FreckleBee · 04/09/2014 19:42

Oh elledouble I feel the same. It's on my mind a bit more than it probably should be so early on! Hope your announcement goes really well.

Is it irresponsible of me to tell so early? I'm not sure what to do!

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tippytappywriter · 04/09/2014 19:48

I think tell those you'd be supported by?
I told close friend and mum and dad about 6 weeks (was so sick they would have guessed anyway). Others I waited till 12 weeks first time and 20 weeks second time.

Sorehead · 04/09/2014 21:21

I unofficially told my mum the day i got my BFP, right after I rang my husband, who was working away.....officially told her and my Dad (DH thinks this is the first they'd heard of it) the following weekend. Think they deserved an Oscar for their performance as they had DH convinced! Told MIL, BIL and SIL that weekend too (about 6 weeks). Everyone else was after 12 weeks.

Congratulations :)

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 04/09/2014 21:52

I told my mum at around 6 weeks because I was a paranoid mess and needed to say it out loud to someone. I told no one else until after the 12 week scan, and that was just family. I told friends and work at 20 weeks.
I think you should only tell those who you'd tell if the worst were to happen. Facebook can wait! Congratulations :)

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FreckleBee · 04/09/2014 22:04

Thanks, yes facebook can definitely wait...if at all!

I think I might tell my family over the weekend. I'm worried if I don't they will guess and that I will feel a bit paranoid and anxious about people thinking I'm pregnant.
No coffee, no wine, no cheese will definately give it away - 3 things which feature at every family get together and are my vices!

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Roseblossom2 · 05/09/2014 09:06

I told family at 8 weeks, and then had to tell my boss at 9w because I needed to go to the emergency docs while I was at work (I was bleeding). I didn't tell anyone else or work officially until I had had my 12w scan, just so I had something to show people :) I'm now at 20 weeks (scan today) and I think everyone knows.

Turquoisetamborine · 05/09/2014 12:31

I've just properly found out today. I'm 4 weeks too. It's a bit different for me because this is an IVF pregnancy which my parents paid for so clearly they were waiting for an answer!
I've told my mam, sent her a photo of the positive test. She's just rang me in tears of happiness. I've told the few close friends who supported me through it all too but they will keep it to themselves. My boss knew I was having treatment but hope she doesn't expect an announcement until 12 weeks.
This is my second pregnancy so not sure how soon I will show but really hope to keep it quiet at work til 12 weeks.

Congratulations!! Happy and healthy 9 months to you!!

ChickenMe · 05/09/2014 13:24

Congratulations.
I had to tell my work, my immediate boss and my team straight away as I do a risky job. I told my best mate but we are waiting till after the scan to tell the rents. I really want to tell my mum and it's a miracle if she has nt guessed.

wawabear · 05/09/2014 13:38

We told our parents, my brother and my best friend as soon as we found out. I had to tell my boss as I was having pains at work and needed to rush to the doctor.

I really want to wait until at least 12 weeks but it is killing me. I also think some of my work friends have guessed as I have had a couple of medical appointments. They have been talking about babies and pregnancy a lot more than usual and I am convinced they are trying to rat me out!

piglet81 · 05/09/2014 13:57

We've only known for a few days and haven't told anyone except the doctor and my yoga teacher (thought I'd better check nothing was contraindicated). Aiming to keep it to ourselves until 8 weeks, all being well... We'll see. I'm worried I'll accidentally blurt it out!

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FreckleBee · 05/09/2014 18:05

Thank you everyone, it's really helpful to hear what others have chosen to do.

And big congratulations to you all!

I've weighed it up and for the reasons I gave above I'm going to try and tell my parents tonight. I'm excited and nervous. Today I've been feeling emotional with butterflies in my tummy, maybe because the thought if telling someone other than dh makes this feel so real :)

Now looking for ideas on how to break the news that they are going to be grandparents, I've started a new thread if anyone wants to suggest anything? x

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FreckleBee · 05/09/2014 18:06

PS turquoise that is wonderful news, congratulations x

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weebairn · 05/09/2014 18:12

Parents - 6 weeks. I wanted someone to be able to talk to about it all.
Closest friends and brothers - between 8 weeks and the 12 week scan depending on when I saw them
Other friends - about 14 weeks or when I saw them
Work - 21 weeks. I didn't have much of a bump and I didn't think they would be very helpful even when I was struggling earlier.

I didn't tell anyone in very interesting ways I'm afraid!! Facebook got a picture of my toddler kissing my tummy (no bump at that time) with a caption "J kissing her new brother or sister" at around 15 weeks.

SlideIn · 05/09/2014 18:35

Mum straight away. Siblings & dad at 12wks. DP told his brother at around the same time; was answered with 'Blimey, hope they're not born on the same day!' His wife is due the same month as me So we took PIL out to lunch at 14wks and presented them with scans in cards - they were overwhelmed! Everyone else & FB at about 16wks.
Had to tell my manager immediately I found out at 9wks as there are aspects of my job I had to stop straight away. That was tough, was convinced they'd guess but had some medical probs last yr and it was mostly assumed to be that.
Shamefully, all the taxi drivers in my town knew early on as I was just bursting to tell constantly; it's so hard to conceal the biggest thing happening in your life!

vallinnapod · 05/09/2014 18:55

Turquoise!!!! Congrats xxx

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