I think I'm having a miscarriage :'-(

[wildfire613]

I found out Monday I was pregnant. After 4 confirmed pregnancy tests I started to believe it. Yesterday I started spotting and a little cramping which I mistook for implantation bleeding. I just woke up now to severe cramps and a decent amount of blood which looks very period like.. what should I do :'-(. This is my first and only pregnancy....

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I'd give your GP a call - they can arrange bloods to be take to check your hcg levels and confirm if they are rising or falling. Some women do bleed during pregnancy so you never know.

I've been through it twice myself and it's horrid.

Chin up and take care of yourself.

Hey, as hard as it is please don't worry. How far along do you think you might be? If you can't get in to see your doctor, you can go straight to A & E, where they can give you an early internal scan. At the most they are a little uncomfortable but should be able to see exactly what's happening. I would go just for peace of mind. Good luck x

Have you got an early pregnancy unit close to you? Ask your GP to refer you for a scan. Good luck.

Yeah. It's confirmed. I miscarried. Although they were surprised I was even aware I was pregnant to begin with since i was only 4 weeks. They said it should just be like a normal period at this point. That 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriages and that at this point it wasn't my fault. Probably just a defect with the baby. Given the fact that I got pregnant so fast (less than 2 months off the pill) he's sure I won't have any issues conceiving in the future. Just wasn't meant to be this time.

I'm so sorry Wildfire. I know it's terribly common in the early stages but that doesn't take away from the hurt you must be feeling.

Be very kind to yourself. Not meant to be this time but you can try again soon.

Sending lots of love xxx

Thanks. I'm ok. Just got a nasty migraine.

My real question now is how soon can we try to conceive again?

Sending love and hugs your way I think they reccommend waiting for a period/cycle and then you can try again X

So sorry to hear that wildfire613. Try and rest and although it's very hard try not to overthink too much. I hope you are doing ok. I agree with the post above me, and I also heard to wait around 2 months, but you could always visit your doctor to get the best advice. Lots of hugs x

What if I'm having my cycle now?

Sorry for your loss Wildfire. There is a lot of support on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss forum which is in the body & soul section.

You can try again as soon as you feel up to it. They only advise to wait a cycle as it's easier to date the pregnancy.

Sorry to hear this :(

I was told that you need a negative pregnancy test and a normal period before trying again. It's an agonising few weeks but once you get your period you feel like you're getting somewhere!

Good luck and put your feet up, don't rush into anything and make sure you're ready to try again x

So sorry for your loss wildfire. Miscarriage is quite common, especially early miscarriage, but it's still shitty. There is no medical reason to wait, doctors say to wait to make dating easier but as soon as you get a negative test there's no reason you can't try again if you're ready. Just look after yourself in the meantime

I got a negative test when I was losing it. I tested at home before going to the hospital and it came back negative. The doctor also scheduled me for a follow up blood work on Saturday to confirm my hcg levels are going down and it's a miscarriage and not an ectopic pregnancy. The way I see it is as sad as it is, I know it's not my fault and this feels very much like a period so that should be ok I guess

Sorry for your loss wildfire. I had a miscarriage at 5+3 weeks in June and we started trying again straight away before I even had a period and I got pregnant the first month of trying. I'm now 12 weeks. Good luck.

So sorry for your loss Wildfire

I had a mc at just over 5 weeks. It was like a normal period for me, I fell pregnant with DS that cycle. He's now a happy healthy 2 year old. I know quite a few people who have fallen pregnant straight away aftet mc and gone on to have a perfectly healthy pregnancy. I hope that helps.

So sorry you are going through this

I've had three early miscarriages (between 5 and 6 weeks) twice I've fell pregnant straight away without having a period. Both pregnancies were fine and are now 3 and 1 years old.

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. Take care of yourself.
If you feel ready to try again then there's no reason to wait. Good luck.

I've been through this too and it's horrible. We tried again straight away and I was pregnant again by the third cycle following MC, I think. I think it could have been sooner if DH had been as keen as me to conceive! I'm now 21 weeks.

Thanks ladies. I think that's the plan. We aren't too shaken up about it. Just a bump in the road. I started bleeding right away so once this is done I think we'll try again. :-)