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HOW LONG BETWEEN PREGNANCIES?

23 replies

kittylette · 22/09/2006 11:59

how long do you think is the ideal amount of time before getting pregnant again?

both physically & for the best age gap between children?

thanks,

Danielle

with Addison 21 months & Dexter 3 months xxx

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FioFio · 22/09/2006 12:03

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PinkTulips · 22/09/2006 12:06

i have 18 months between mine.

apparently the ideal is 2-5 years for healthy baby and mom, and logically this is also a good age differance for the kids to be friends.

do whatever feels right for you. my 2 are so close together as we started trying for ds right after having dd, it took 2 years to have dd so i didn't know how long it would take and prefered the thought of having them too close together than too far apart

anniediv · 22/09/2006 12:13

I have got 13 months between dd1 and 2, 3.7 years between dd2 and 3, and will have 20 months between dd3 and next dd/ds. I don't think there is an ideal because you just get stuck in and cope regardless!

BTW lockets, much respect to you, 3 under 3!!

divastrop · 22/09/2006 17:05

i had dd1 when ds1 was 11 months old,which didnt cause any physical problems that i know of.dd1 was 4.5 when i had ds2 and that was a shock to the system,i found,starting again with a new baby but this time with the added pressure of school runs etc.ds2 was 2yrs 5 mo when i had dd2,and it was a bit difficult at first cos he kept hitting her with toys,but now he is 3 and she is 9 mo and they adore each other.dd2 will be 15 months when i have the next one...i dont think there is an ideal age gap tbh.maybe 16yrs so the older one can babysit?!

SummersDay · 26/09/2006 07:07

Hi,
this is my very first posting so horrah horrah!
I have grilled my obstetrician on this one too and he says 18 months is the best for mama and baby. But everyone is different.

flack · 26/09/2006 07:12

I don't want to upset anybody, but I know a lady who had 4 in under 4 years. She has now become disabled because of severe prolapse (not really treatable). It was just too much for her body and she is effectively house-bound now. It didn't hit her until decades later, in late middle age. So i think that kind of very close-together large(ish) family is a bad idea, but maybe just one or 2 very small age gaps might not be so bad.

sweeneytoddsmissus · 26/09/2006 07:15

I got preg with dd when ds was 11m - my mum thought that was far too close - but as she had me when she was 23 then my sis and bro at precise 3.5 yr intervals - I was not surprised. Seeing as mums are starting their families later I think many feel that we don't have the luxury of long planned gaps (I was 30 when I had ds) - I also wanted a small age gap for the children to enjoy playing together more. It is hard work but I found the recovery from giving birth much quicker than with ds (prob cos I had hb and no drugs this time).

FillyjonktheBananaEater · 26/09/2006 07:46

Um-flack-are you sure the prolapse was a result of the close together kids?

I have had 2 clients with prolapse. One had one child, the other had none. I didn't think it was especially related to number of kids you had, for this reason.

HappyMumof2 · 26/09/2006 07:47

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Mum2FunkyDude · 26/09/2006 07:59

Yes 2 years recommended for your body to recover completely. Including building up your iron stores etc. However if you are an "older" mum you might want to start sooner, as it sometimes takes longer to conceive for an older mum. I am 33 and was told I could start trying from 9-12 months after FunkyDude again, and I had a c-section.

mumandlovingit · 26/09/2006 08:05

i conceived with my second child whe my first was 3 months old.(wasnt planned that soon)
my body wasnt recvered from the first child and therefore i had alot of problems carrying the second.i would definitely recommend waiting longer to have another child and enjoy the first child without all the problems and sickness of pregnancy at the same time.i wouldnt change them for the world or chnage my decision to have them both but ive now got a weak cervix due to it all which could cause problems in any future prenancies.

eidsvold · 26/09/2006 10:20

my three will be the same time apart. Dd1 was 2y4m when dd2 was born and dd2 will be the same. I have had two c-sections and they advised leaving at least 12 month between each pregnancy.

eidsvold · 26/09/2006 10:20

but I think each to their own.

flack · 26/09/2006 21:06

That's what my aunt was told Fillyjonk. I didn't know that woman who had never been pregnant could get it. though. Was she very fat?

This webpage confirms that having children too close together increases the risk , and that the more children you have the greater the risk (which I wasn't saying, but a friend who had almost all C-sections for her 6 children has been saying as much!).

mum2monkeys · 26/09/2006 21:14

My DD was 14mths when DS was born, should've been a 16mth gap - DS was born at 30weeks, they don't really know why it happened but one of the reasons that has been suggested was that it was too soon after DD....Going to give myself a 4yr holiday now and then have a rethink!

WriggleJiggle · 26/09/2006 21:18

dd is 5 months and we're ttc now so if it all goes to plan there will be 14mths. Having read the previous posts it all sounds quite scary and I'm not sure I'm now doing the right thing

foxtrot · 26/09/2006 21:22

12 months 3 weeks between first two, 15 months between 2nd and 3rd, my only physical problem was piles and being absolutely knackered. Now open only for window shopping.

mum2monkeys · 26/09/2006 21:26

WJ, my DS is absolutely perfect now, and it was just a theory the drs put forward - think most important thing is to try and enjoy pregnancy, and be extra careful about lifting etc - not always easy with a lo, I know! But make sure you get some you time and put your feet up, keep doing those pelvic floors etc Sure everything will be fine.....My DD loves her little brother loads and despite everything I'm happy that they are close and will always be good mates XXX

mum2monkeys · 26/09/2006 21:29

Sorry speed reading thought you already were pregnant

CarlyP · 26/09/2006 21:32

i had 3 months between having ds1 and falling preg with ds2. not advisable at all.

Peridot30 · 26/09/2006 21:53

I have a 22month gap between my ds and dd. Everything took a bit longer to start off with but now is great because they play...and fight together but wouldn't have it any other way.

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