Medical management of miscarriage

[nottskate]

Hi guys,
Sorry this isn't a very happy post! I just want to see if anyone has been through the same as me.. I had to have a medical evacuation of retained products of conception.. I had a missed misscariage so it had to be forced out basically.. This involved putting pessaries into my vagina to open the cervix. I had it yesterday and for 3 hours I was in the worst pain of my life. It was unbearable until it finally happened! The hospital didn't warn me of what to expect or give me any painkillers. Had anyone else been the through this x

Sorry for your loss.

Do you know why you weren't given surgery? This is more the norm now, because pessaries do hurt a lot and with surgery they can do pathology which can give closure and diagnose some rare conditions like molars.
The pessaries hurt a lot. Sadly, natural miscarriage also often hurts severely ... something society doesn't admit as it's supposed to be emotional pain and the brutal physical side ignored.
So although it was horribly painful, don't worry that was normal and you should recover physically quite quickly.
In terms of recovery:
-use thick, basic pads for blood (not tampons)

• don't use swimming pools or hot tubs till any bleeding ends
• Report any weird smelly blood to a doctor (also high temperature) if you get any
• after 2 to 4 weeks, you need to check on a home pregnancy test that you're not pregnant. If you are, call the hospital and ask for a follow up scan (if they don't do this as standard- mine did) to check no placenta is "retained" or other complications.
• Many people prefer to leave a full cycle after this before ttc again as the 1st cycle after a loss can be weirdly long, short, painful etc.

The Miscarriage Association have a great set of leaflets (which you should be offered) and a very kind but informational helpline too.

so sorry for your loss.

I had medical management of mmc at 8 weeks and had tablet and pessary combination. But is sounds like my hospital were more informative as I took the option knowing it would hurt and was prescribed codeine with the miscarriage drugs.

It was October last year for me and at one point I was sitting on my stairs crying while being cuddled by my mum at 2 in the morning. I just could get rid of the pain or get comfortable.

Definitely look at the miscarriage association and talk to people on here as there is lots of helpful information. But just make sure you take time to come to terms with what has happened. You are grieving for a member of your family and you need to do whatever is necessary to come to terms with that xxxx

And also just because it has happened to you once doesn't mean that it will happen again. You will almost certainly go on to have a successful pregnancy when you do feel ready to ttc again cx

I'm sorry you lost your baby notskate I've had 3 natural and one medically managed miscarriage and they all physically hurt, but the MM one was most intense. You are basically going through a mini version of labour. I wasn't given any painkillers but when I spoke to the EPU later they said they should have been offered/prescribed. It seemed to be my misfortune to MC over a weekend and be left with junior staff. It's worth giving the hospital feedback that you were not adequately informed of what to expect.
There is a very supportive Miscarriage Support board in the body and soul section of MN, it can be very helpful to chat to others who have been through similar losses.

So sorry to read this. I had the same thing back in February. It was my second MC (the first was natural) and was far more painful than I had imagined it would be or had been warned by the hospital. I was given painkillers by the hospital, which on the experience of my previous MC I'd not thought I would need but the pains were akin to my labour pains when I had DD. I was more or less immobile for the first day and spent it on the sofa with a hot water bottle and painkillers, with my parents down to look after both me and DD! I think that it was cocodamol that I was given, which you may be able to get someone to get for you over the counter at a pharmacy if you can't get out yourself and still need something. One word of warning (and not to alarm you, just to potentially prepare you), it did take a few weeks for the bleeding to stop completely, although the pain only lasted for a day or two. I hope you recover soon. x