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22 and Ready for a baby, Am i too Young?

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MissMartin1092 · 29/08/2014 22:54

Hi!
I've recently turned 22 and i am so ready for a baby.
Me and my partner have been together for 7 years in Jan, In love with each other more now than ever! We have our own home.. car and both have permanent good paying jobs. We both really want to start a family! But im so scared of what my family will stay and don't want to let them down.. Am i too young?
Anyone else been experienced this?
Thanks :)

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Rox19 · 30/08/2014 11:52

You sound mature and lovely and realistic you'll be fine
Better young than older in my opinion. I was 25 now 30 and have 3. I'm always the youngest round great baby groups as well.

Greengrow · 30/08/2014 12:22

I was 22 and we owned a house etc and had careers. My advice is go ahead but don't take much time of work and keep working full time always. It makes a huge difference.

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squizita · 30/08/2014 13:53

In terms of going out - my friends found that their kids were old enough for a babysitter/weekend with grandparents whilst still in their 20s, so actually there came a time when they could do a weekend away or festival or party and we're still "young".

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MissMartin1092 · 30/08/2014 14:50

Redpony Aww thats great, Im glad your really happy :) I do have 3 friends who already have babies and my counsin has recently had a little boy so ill have people there to hang out with who have children. I suppose ill find out who my real friends are haha... I feel so reassured now it makes me feel sooo much better :)

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MissMartin1092 · 30/08/2014 14:56

I didn't realize there was a second page of comments! :) I love hearing everyone's advice.. opinions and experiences! Thank You all so much.. You don't understand how much better you are all making me feel

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JennyBlueWren · 30/08/2014 15:14

Sounds like you're in the ideal situation. I am too but 8 years later than you. At 22 I'd been with my BF (now DH) for a year and was just finishing uni. He was in temporary work and I was low paid. I lived in a student flat with 5 others! Now we both have permenant jobs and a house so are ready. Physically/emotionally I've wanted a baby since I was 18!

Go for it.

Madratlady · 30/08/2014 15:18

I had ds at 23, he was planned. I am the youngest at most baby groups I go to but age is much less of an issue as an adult, one of the mum friends i see regularly is 16 years older than me so almost old enough to be my mum, but that doesn't really matter, we're both adults and both mums to similiar age babies, we have plenty to chat about. I also got the partying out of my system when I was younger and although I occasionally wish I could have a night out, it's living too far from town that stops me, not ds.

DollyMixture99 · 30/08/2014 15:22

Are you married and do you own your home?

The reason I say this is because your career may suffer as a result of having a baby so it's better to be protected in the event of a split from your DP.

Also, I believe getting a mortgage is much harder when you have a child as the new regulations are based on affordability and take childcare payments into account, this reducing the amount you can borrow.

Greengrow · 30/08/2014 17:03

Yes, I was the youngest around. Most lawyers have their babies at nearly 40, not 22 but it worked out really well (because I've always worked full time). I think it's easier when you're younger as you're more adaptable. Also I always got pregnant first or second try and was able to work until I went into labour as I was fit and young so that's an advantage too.

saiyme09 · 30/08/2014 22:52

Definitely not too young! I'm 22 and just found out I'm pregnant! In the same situation as you regarding home life, so I feel totally at ease, this is obviously a totally subjective situation, but I wouldn't worry about what other people think. I know this is easier said than done though! All I've worried about is making it to the toilet in time for the 1000 toilet trips I need to make in a day!

atos35 · 02/09/2014 20:23

I was 23 when I had my first and I don't regret it at all! I am 35 now and expecting number 3. Financially we are in a much better place than we were 12 years ago but we managed, it was fine. There's never a 'right' time and its very hard to fight the urge once you get it! I did find my parents did a lot more with ds1 while we were working etc as they were younger and fitter but that was the only real difference. I still managed to get a good career working part time and being a younger mum has never held me back. Go for it.

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