How far from husband when birth imminent?

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My DH's sister has her MA exhibition on Fri when I will be 39+4. It's in Canterbury. Which is over 2 hrs away from us in NE London. We don't own a car and if my husband were to go he'd have to take public transport. If you were 3 days from your due date and you hadn't popped would you be happy about your husband going to this?

I would obviously like for both of us to be there to support her but it's just a bad time, this is our first child and I'm obviously quite anxious about the birth. I worry about being at home alone dealing with increasingly frequent contractions. I know it's not likely, but it isn't unlikely either!

I don't want to sound like a drama queen but I just don't feel comfortable about him being that far away. He's annoyed with me and acting like I'm unreasonable for feeling uncomfortable. What do you think?

I think I would be fine with it. Labour is usually so damn slow he could be back with you before contractions really kicked in. But its between you and hubby and if it's annoying you then that's a valid reason for him to stay at this stage!

I'm pregnant and my partner works away during the week over 3 hours away. I've been thinking that will be fine seeing as he's currently 18 hours away by plane! I wouldn't worry about the 2 hours travel.

Ok. I'm clearly being a knob. It's just first child jitters, I think!

I don't think you're being silly but if you feel like labour is starting then ring him, sort out your bag, have a bath and he'll be home by the time you're ready to leave. If all fails you can always get a taxi to the hospital and meet him there (assuming you're going to the hospital).

You are not been a knob. DH cancelled/reschedued all his business trips the month before and after DD was due. DD was also our first. Nothing wrong with wanting your DH close by.

Your reaction is perfectly understandable! PLease don't dismiss your worries and do share them with your DH.

JUst make sure he has his phone on him at all times and that he checks it regularly. TBH, he'll probably do it anyway!

You're not being daft.

It was the other way round with us, I wanted to go to a local town on the bus to go shopping, which was a 45m ride away & got told I was being risky. (It has a hospital, I have a phone!)

From what I believe first labours are long, mine ridiculously so, but you'll get warning signs like lower back ache. Warm baths slow it down too. By the time you're 2 weeks over & going for an induction, you'll wish Sod's law had come into play the day he went on this visit!

Definitely not being a knob! It's ok to have concerns but I agree that it's unlikely to be a problem. Could you agree a certain train he will absolutely come back on so you know when to expect him along with absolute surety his mobile will be charged and on, you'll have the number he's at and that he'll be on the fastest transport back if need be?

My DH worked in London, at least a two hour journey away by train, through all three pregnancies. He made it back for all three births, I could hardly expect him to take holiday just in case especially as this was before paternity leave was enshrined in law. He had to go back to work as soon as I was home as it was.

You're not being a knob! With our first we didn't even want to do family visits 30mins away (yes, in hind sight a little OTT). I went into labour at 39+3, though it did take 35 hrs. Then again with my mum's first she went into labour at 38 weeks and it only took 3 hours, not all first times takes ages! I'd feel the same as you, but seeing as he seems set on going I'd follow the previous advice. Is there a back up person you could also call on should you go into labour?