Urghhh I hate being pregnant

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Posted a few weeks ago due to intimacy problems with my husband. Received lots of advice and my husband and I had a long discussion about it and I thought we were finally getting somewhere. I still can't bring myself to enjoy sex and my husband has taken it as a personal attack on him. All this erupted last night and he's basically said we are going to completely eradicate sex from our marriage so that it's no longer an issue. Basically we will be friends that live together and have a baby to the point he has said our sex life is boring if not non existent and I should feel free to have sex with somebody I find attractive which in his eyes isn't him. The last few weeks I genuinely resent our unborn baby and wish i hadn't got pregnant in the first place as we had no problems before. We don't stop arguing and can't agree on anything. I literally feel like the worst mother ever and an even worse wife. I want me back. The me that had a happy husband. The me that would do anything to keep him happy. I just dnt know what to do

still sorry to say this but how old is your husband? 16? He needs to bloody we'll grow up and appreciate the world does not revolve around him and his ahem 'appendage'! I am furious on your behalf! It's 9 months or there about! I would guess once baby is born it might be different but what incredible pressure this must be putting you under! It's completely unacceptable as is his behaviour! I don't know what to suggest but didn't want to read and run! I am sure there will be some ladies along soon with some sage advice, it may involve a sharp blade, it may not!

Agree with Ruby - he sounds like a spoilt child throwing a tantrum. He really needs to grow up and come to terms with the fact that pregnancy can change your sex life.

I don't really know how to advise you, other than say that please don't blame the pregnancy - if he is so selfishly minded it would have come out another way anyway. Is there any chance of sitting down with him and having a rational discussion about it? Maybe seeing a marriage counsellor might help?

I think your sex life changes once you have children mine and dp is very different and now I'm pregnant again non existstant but will be different once I've had baby, I just don't feel like it at all to be honest I can't think of anything worse. Ha. I think you need to explain to your husband that its very normal in pregnancy and things do change when you have kids. My partner does feel a bit rejected sometimes because I don't even want him touching me :/ but he is understand about why I don't want to have sex x

He sounds incredibly selfish and those are very hurtful things to say to you. As others have said, pregnancy completely changes as your hormones are all over the place and it's very common for women to go off sex during pregnancy (and after the birth for a little while) - sounds like he needs to talk to friends who have kids and get some perspective!
Also, there's a huge difference between not having sex and just being platonically friends, so that's a ridiculous thing for him to say. What about romance? Kissing, touching, a romantic meal out?

It's just getting ridiculous no matter what I say we end up arguing, I dnt want to end up being a single mum as I know I wouldn't cope it's got to the point now where he thinks he has a sex addiction and wants to see his gp I just dnt know if that will help