"this is the last one" is considering a vasectomy too sudden?

[mismylinford]

Im currently 28 weeks with dc2.
I am 25 and have had complications with pg so far and i have underlying back problems which is hugely amplified by pregnancy. Early in pregnancy 9 weeks i bleed quite heavily and condemned myself to thinking i had lost the baby... Which i hadn't baby is healthy ... But the fear and emotion i felt has stayed with me.
When i couple my underlying back problems an how terrified i am about loosing the baby i just don't want to put myself threw this again.
Dh 32 has said he dosnt want to watch me go threw this rollercoaster again and has said that 2 is enough.
The way i feel now is that i don't think my body or my mind can go threw another pg.
Obviously not going to send dh for the snip right now but seriously considering in the next year. ... We love our dc1 very much and are so happy about dc2, we are very grateful as some couples struggle just for one.
So opinions experiences please.
At 25 and 32 calling it a day on children on physical and mental health grounds... Too young??

If you're happy with what you've got, then go for it. It is possible to reverse it later on if you really change you mind (don't think it's 100% success rate though).

Just remember that it takes a few months for it to be totally effective, so don't throw out other contraceptives as soon as it's done!

We are 29 and 28 and going through similar, my dh is highly fertile and I couldn't face going through another pregnancy I have blood probs so it would be silly to do it again 2 is enough, hubby has agreed to the snip next year and although sum are shocked we are consodering this so young it is right for us!

I'm 24 and my partner is 26, we have one child and I'm 30 weeks pregnant with no 2 I'm not sure I could make the commitment to not having anymore but don't no if I do want more either, our first son has a life limiting genetic condition and I've suffered badly with anxiety issues in both pregnancys going on meds, under psyctrist etc but couldn't say defiantly not. I think you should see how you feel after baby is born, hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well x

Me and dh are not quite 24 yet and weve been looking into getting him the snip. Im pregnant with dc2, we have only ever wanted 2 children and always said hed get the snip after dc2, i suffer terribly with my back especially as i have to stop my medication during pregnancy, i had a traumatic missed miscarriage inbetween have ds and this current pregnancy, so weve both found this one an anxious time. Problem is due to dh age they are highly unlikely to agree to do it on the nhs and privately it'll cost approx 400 (thats a seriously large sum of money for us).

You might like to go over to the "family planning" section and make sure that you and DH are fully informed about the risks of longterm (and essentially untreatable) complications from vasectomy. The risks are routinely underestimated for male contraception surgery.

Waiting a year is sensible. It's widely recommended that permanent removal of fertility by surgery is not carried out within a year of major life events and birth counts as one of them.

LARCs have a similar fail rate to vasectomy, btw.

Here's the Contraception topic:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/family_planning

but you might also want use search on 'vasectomy' as people also put threads in chat (to go pfft) general health (of course) and (rather mystifyingly) in AIBU.

Yeh go for it
I had pre eclampsia severely in all 3 pregnancies aged 25-29 andDH had snip when DC3 was 1mo

He was 29

I didn't have to meet doctor they rang me for consent and DH explained about bad pregnancies and 3DC in 4yrs was it.

Oh yes and op was v quick he was back at work same day and lifting kidsDIy etc within a few days. Slight pain for a week then totally normal .