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Sleeping alone

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Mistyautumn · 04/08/2014 18:17

Ok silly question time. I am 33+ 5 now and considering asking DH to sleep in the spare room. Do you still sleep in same room as DH or do you sometimes sleep apart sometimes now? X

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ClaretAndBlue30 · 04/08/2014 18:26

I'm 31 weeks and will DEFINITELY be asking dh to sleep in spare room shortly, the bed is not nearly big enough.

So at 33 weeks like you, I'd expect we'll be in separate rooms. If that's what's needed to retain your sanity then do it!!!

JennyBlueWren · 04/08/2014 18:34

If it's space under the duvet rather than space on the mattress I can recommend separate duvets/sheets. Within a few months of dating I'd bought a second duvet as I found him very selfish when asleep!

jammiecat · 04/08/2014 18:38

We do this if one of us is unwell, particularly if coughing and likely to wake the other. I've also spent 4 months in the spare room as DH can't sleep with snuffling babies so until the twins hit 6 months I moved so DH can get some sleep. I did the same with DS. It's not been a problem for our relationship as is only temporary and better than DH not being able to function due to no sleep!

WaffleWiffle · 04/08/2014 18:38

I'm 33 weeks pregnant, quite a large even when not pregnant, we have a super king sized bed. We can both easily fit, along with at least 2 of our three children. I'm sure new baby will fit in too when she arrived.

Personally, I can't imagine not sharing bed with my husband, I'd miss his presence, comfort and physical contact. Everyone is different though.

jammiecat · 04/08/2014 18:40

Sorry meant to say if you need to sleep apart whilst pregnant just do it. You'll probably both sleep better if you're getting uncomfortable and feeling squished as you'll be less restless.

ohthegoats · 04/08/2014 18:41

We regularly sleep in separate beds/rooms - I think last night was the first time we've woken up in the same bed (and both went to sleep in the same bed) in a few weeks. It's great. We go to bed together, then when we switch off the lights one of us scarpers into the other room. Then one of us will go into the other when alarms go off in the morning.

We've planned that when the baby arrives, I'm in the room with the kid for at least 3 months on my own, boyfriend in 'spare' (his) room. When kid goes into its own room, boyfriend will try and come back in with me - at which point we're going to buy a new bed.

squizita · 04/08/2014 19:01

34 weeks DH politely excused himself because he could see that I needed so much space/props to get comfortable (taking up most of the bed I guess) and I think my pregnancy snoring/loo-trips were keeping him awake.
He comes in and says goodnight and helps prop me up at the right angle before I retire at like 8.30pm every night!
:)
Only for a few weeks but it's helped up both sleep. Especially in this weather.

Redling · 04/08/2014 19:05

Since it got so hot at night we've been sleeping apart, we did sleep in the same bed last night though, which tbh I was less than impressed with but I managed to sleep a bit!! It's just better that we don't keep each other awake. Info miss him though, so hope we can both sleep in the same room as the baby.

MrsS28 · 04/08/2014 19:07

Yep we did it late on in pregnancy and baby now sleeps in bed with me, so DH is still in the spare room for the time being

stargirl1701 · 04/08/2014 19:11

I had to move into the spare bed this pg as our bed is so low I can't get out of it. The spare bed is much higher. No room for DH in the spare as it's just a double!

weebairn · 04/08/2014 19:20

DP frequently isn't in my bed in the morning because he's gone to see to the toddler in the night and fallen asleep with her. I miss him loads! Last pregnancy we didn't spend a night apart but talking to mates I think I was actually very unusual in this. If you get better sleep I say go for it.

weebairn · 04/08/2014 19:27

We also all slept in the same bed for several months after birth (baby as well I mean)... oh it was lovely and cuddly (it's a double so not massive).

We are quite a "huggy" family though :)

Having said that once baby starting flailing around and kicking me all night I moved her into her own room!

cookielove · 04/08/2014 19:59

Dh and I haven't slept in the same bed together for months, my snoring was bad before pregnancy its bloody horrific now! (I've recorded it )

Dh is terrible without a good night sleep, and he's been suffering the last few years with 2 different very painful injuries which have finally healed allowing him to sleep, which is much nicer for all of us.

When baby is born, he will stay in with me and dh will continue to be in the spare room. Also it helps we both like our space when sleeping, we have separate duvets when we are in the same bed, and aside from a cuddle goodnight (which we still do) we don't touch for the rest of the time!

Em1503 · 04/08/2014 20:27

We've had the odd night in separate rooms. It's usually me who goes into the spare room in the middle of the night when I can't get to sleep, it seems to help! Don't like doing it though, but it's not often and not forever.

angelopal · 04/08/2014 20:32

We slept separately for most of both my pregnancies. I missed him sometimes but slept better on my own. He chose to move rooms each time.

LBNM19 · 04/08/2014 20:36

I have a small double bed as my room is small, sleep on my own couldn't bare the thought of him in there lol, sometimes he comes in in the morning for a cuddle which is nice xx

Marnierose · 04/08/2014 22:02

Term and still in with my dp. I will take myself off into the spare bed if I can't sleep well though. I sleep better in the same bed so will carry on.

Fissawissa · 05/08/2014 12:58

I'm 30 weeks & due to being hot, bothered, restless legs, hating the fact DH can fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, carpal tunnel, wee trips, 5 year old jumping in with us & also some family visiting - I sleep in the spare room on the single bed and have the best. nights. sleep. Ever.
I do miss cuddles though

frannie2013 · 06/08/2014 09:53

hi, i've had to accept this as my snoring is terrible (ive also listened to it on an app...) so OH needs sleep so is in the spare room. i don't like it much but i do understand it and i sleep better too. we try to go to bed about the same time and have a chat in the morning and i keep trying to remind myself it is only for another 2 or three months - i've 5 weeks to go but think OH will prob kip in the spare room most nights once baby is here for a while to get sleep and who knows my snoring might get better too!
good luck!!

Heatherbell1978 · 07/08/2014 18:04

39 weeks now and I've never had too many issues sleeping (never felt the need for pregnancy pillows etc) so we're still sharing a bed and will be until baby is born. After baby is born though....I think it would probably be sensible for DH to sleep elsewhere when I'm getting up all through the night to feed so he doesn't feel too crap before going to work. I know everyone thinks differently about that though.

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