Feeling sad

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lubella · 15/09/2006 10:17

Hi All,

I just needed to get this off my chest and to ask if anyone else can relate to what I'm feeling. I am 6 months and have felt pretty rough all along my PG. Nothing major but I had terrible sickness for the first stage, then a UTI, Thrush all along, a lot of weight gain, etc, etc, but basically I feel like I want to hibernate - just go to work and come home and rest. The only thing is I keep having to blow out my friends, one in particular I have let down again for a meet-up this weekend and she is not getting back to me and I think she is really Ped off. I feel like I am going to loose touch with everybody if I carry on like this and will have no more friends when I do have my baby. I have joined the NCT but work full time so I haven't been able to make any of the day meetings as yet - just feel really alone at the moment

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foundintranslation · 15/09/2006 10:24

I sympathise.
Any chance of getting signed off, just for a week or two? You don't want to run yourself into the ground.
Real friends will be sympathetic IMO and E. Maybe give this friend another call and explain. Maybe she could come round to yours and you could have a nice quiet cup of tea and chat, instead of going out?

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lubella · 15/09/2006 10:35

Thanks for your response fit, I will try and contact friend again at some point but have already done this to her a few times so I feel I will just leave for the time being, would just really like to hook up with another PG laydee's with nct/ local groups but have 0 time, when do you think the best time to do this is?

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schmizaj · 15/09/2006 14:20

I was a little disapointed that NCT classes start so late in pregnancy as would've liked to meet other preggers women before then. Maybe you can ask to join an earlier class? But I've been able to chat with others in my yoga class which has been a real motivation for going regualarly!! It is tough though as I work full-time a have a huge commute and go after work. I really want to see friends before baby born but am knackered if I stay out/travel around too much. As pleased as they are for me don't think they realise that i've got new limits so can't be as much fun.

I wouldn't worry about friend, other people bail for much less valid reasons than pregnancy! Getting a week or two off work sounds like a great idea as it may be a while before maternity leave starts and recovery time could make it much more positive for you going forward. I've rediscovered the telephone too!! Calling friends and just having a chat rather than needing to travel to see them is a great stop-gap. It's understandable that you feel a bit down having had to cope with side-effects and tiredness but let yourself do something fun, quick facial or reflexology sess, DVD, take-aways whatever floats your boat.

anniediv · 15/09/2006 14:22

Instead of/as well as NCT classes, they also have 'bumps and babes' coffee mornings. I have known lots of people go along with just a 'bump' and no 'babe', so that might be a point of contact for you.

LeBe · 15/09/2006 14:52

Lubella - Hugs to you. I sympathise because ive not had a hard time really, but have had same as you uti, thrush, flu and as usual unbelivable tiredness and i have felt really down at times. I now have no social life and spend my days at work and evenings slobbing out infront of the tv. If they are true friends then they will understand especially if the have been pg themselves but if not just explain how tired you are. I aso agree you might do yourself good to book a week off. Good luck hope you feel better soon.xx

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lubella · 15/09/2006 15:23

You are all so sweet - reassuring to hear I am not the only PG woman without a wide array of other PG friends and finding the social aspects difficult. Schmiaz I did join a Yoga class and found it wonderful but just couldn't keep up with the commute after work and ended up more tired than anything else.
Think I will make some time for the bumps and babies mornings - it's worth a try.
thanks again for your support guys x

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pennygaff · 15/09/2006 15:49

I completely understand your point, I have been holed up in my house since my sickness started at 4 wks, too tired to go out at might and all the below. My scan is on monday (13wks today) so I have'nt been able to tell people and I can honestly say its been one of the most miserable times in my life.
I had to let a friend down again yesterday and she did'nt return my call, I don't blame her I've been hiding at home for weeks and I have let her down three times.
Other friends have stopped asking me out which is bad because I have just moved and don't know anybody in my area.
Hoping things get better, know friends will understand but I still won't be going out like before, I feel different.
Don't worry your not the only one.
x

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