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[mrsnlw]

Gah! Its starting to annoy me. So far throughout my pregnancy I have done remarkably well in that my family and fiends all know that we do not know whether our baby is a boy or girl and nor do we care which sex the baby is. As such, mos of them stupid opinionated SIL have kept their opinions on our baby's gender to themselves. Or if they have mentioned their suspicions, it has been light hearted and in jest again stupid SIL who believes "all women who are not sick during pregnancy and carry out front have boys and all women who are sick and carry widely have girls because she did

Now in the last week, considering I am now 37 weeks, I have had close friends comment that my bump has dropped and got flatter which I dont mind because I know baby has engaged and things are going in the right direction. I have had my GP say "You're not very big are you" when I went to see her about something none pregnancy related and also complete strangers saying I must have "a while to go yet" and look shocked when I say "I've only got 2 weeks left" or even offer up what gender they think my baby is!

PISS OFF! Kindly keep your opinions to yourself! Not my fault I was 5ft, size 8 and toned prior to pregnancy and now feel the size of a small galaxy!

Making me worry even though I am measuring perfectly for my dates that I am not as I should be....

Piccy attached of me at 35+1 (pre bump drop) and a 37+1 [MESSAGE EDITED BY MNHQ to remove pictures at poster's request]]

I'm at the same point as you, size 8 before all if this and about an inch taller. My bump dropped this week and baby engaged also.

I am fed up of people telling me I must want a girl (why?) I don't know sex and frankly would be happy either way!!!

Also fed up hearing about how small or 'neat' I am. I am paranoid I must not be feeding baby enough, makes you feel like a bad mother!!!

I think you look fabulous and to be honest I think I look pretty good too!!!

Small bump doesn't always mean a small baby, a friend who was tiny managed 8lbs.

I hope everything goes well for you and you can ignore all those annoying comments!!! ;) xx

You look pretty normal to me - just carrying neat and up front which is a perfectly healthy and normal thing (my MW says mostly down to pelvic shape, posture etc' - nothing anyone can do the carry neater OR wider just fate). Which has NO bearing on gender: I have a 'football up the t-shirt' front bump and know mine is a girl so the boy thing is utterly unreliable!

I have the most bizarre comments: one woman at my work has commented on my bump from about week 18. Then about 4 weeks ago (when I was well in 3rd trimester) she started saying that I'd "Only just started showing, how odd. In my day you'd get extra check ups for that..." well clearly I hadn't only just started showing if she'd noticed over 10 weeks before?!?

I carried exactly the same as you, I was a 10/12 pre pregnancy but am 5'10 and my bump was about the same as yours but proportional to my bigger frame. The midwife said she had never seen a bump so perfectly round before.... baby was back to back, a boy and 9lb 13oz!

You look perfect to me, good luck :)

I must say though, both the midwife at our local triage unit (long story but wasted 12 hours of my life in there) and the consultant midwife both said "Oh what a lovely bump" when they examined me. That cheered me up a bit. Who cares what size/shape a bump is in. People are too quick to pass comment. Oh and the SIL also comments "Well youre bigger than X (DH's bros gf) when she was at your stage" Well yes but X is/was probably a 14/16 not an 8! More room for a bump to hide on a larger frame. Moron

I'm expecting twins and opinions range from "Twins, really? You're very small for twins." to others (who know) saying "Gosh you're huge, defo two in there" etc etc. To be honest, opinions vary so much I'm past caring. What does it matter really? I just smile and ignore whatever the comment is.

I am5' 8 and my bump was small. Boy, small boy, 5lb 15. However he put on a pound a week until he was in the 98th percentile. He is now a strapping 10 year old. Every woman will offer an opinion as they feel they know as they've been pregnant. If your midwife is happy then that is all that matters. An old lady had an argument (good natured,)with me that ds2 was a girl as he was so pretty! Like I wouldn't have noticed!

spanky - I had the same - she was very disappointed at me not putting him a pretty dress and what was it with mothers nowadays sticking girls in dungarees and jumpers and cutting their hair...... errrmm maybe because he's a boy........ "Nonsense!!" I was told, "stop lying!" :o

Daft old bat!

People can be so frustrating. I've got the same kind of comments all the time about what gender baby is, and usually it's in jest which is fun as me and DH don't know!

But in reference to size, people say I look "massive" for 6 weeks to go and that I'll end up "enormous"! And even family have started to say I was never this big with DS (he was born at 32 weeks, I'm 34 now, no wonder I wasn't this big you fecking idiot lol).

Just ignore them as best as you can and enjoy your pregnancy, many people just talk shite for the sake of it to be honest, they normally don't mean anything by it x

People do talk crap. I remember in the same day at about 36 weeks with DS2, 4 people telling me I had a teeny bump and must have ages yet, and 3 people saying I was enormous and must have 2 in there !

My own dr was asking if 6wo DS2 was a boy or girl. I said boy and she spent a good 5 mins banging on about how he was too pretty to be a boy, and even said. "are you sure?" I almost said "would you like to check since you're the dr?!"

Ignore them all - if the mw is happy that's all that counts.