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What is his problem??

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 07:43

I found out I'm PG yesterday and told my BF last night do you know the first thing he said was "have you not been with anyone else?" this is because we slept together 2 weeks ago today and and all over the weekend and obviously have found out quite soon after, 4 days before AF due. We did use a condom (which split) but I warned him I'm not on the pill also. I know he doesn't understand the pregnacy being calculated from the first day of my last period which was the 23rd of Aug. Aghhh this is just pants I'm not sure what to do my heads right up my bum now...

He said he will talk about it today but we'll see will probs never hear from him again

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 07:45

oh this chap is an ex from 6 years ago. I wasn't on the pill as I have not needed to be since I haven't been with anyone since the end of december when my long term relationship ended and I moved here to lancashire.

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trinityshiftingherleatheryarse · 14/09/2006 07:46

for you
don't really know what to say
he sounds like a bit of an arse

squishy · 14/09/2006 07:53

Oh no, poor you. Also don't know what to say Good luck today (and don't let him bully you or weasel his way out )

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 08:01

Thanks for the messages girls, not really sure what his reaction was going to be but never expected that accusation thrown in my face.

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squishy · 14/09/2006 08:09

How long have you been back with him?

divastrop · 14/09/2006 09:27

he does sound like an arse.maybe he's just in shock but if he is genuinley an idiot then if i were you i'd tell him where to stick himself and just get on with it.i wont go into detail but i have 4 kids and went through my last pg on my own and it was the best thing i couldve done.

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 12:03

Squishy we got back together 2 weeks ago today but we have known eachother for six years we were together for a year back in "99"

I understand that this is a shock it is so the last thing I expected too. I haven't been on the pill due to having no reason for it until now which I explained. I know my last AF started on the 22nd/23rd of Aug due to having to book a smear for after it finished which would have been early next week so I pretty much know the day I conceived on too. I also mentioned that from this Saturday in medical weeks I will be four weeks and he was like " well how can that be??" lol frikkin men I swear Grrrrr

I have just been sent home from work as I'm struggling to empty my head of this and feel a fair bit lonely as I can't talk to anyone bar you guys. so thankyou

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 12:06

Diva your an inspiration hun am worried the thought of 3 little ones on my own. DD's dad (ex husband) has all but abandaned them. he see's them 2 weeks a year its just so sad

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DogMum · 14/09/2006 12:24

Hi megandsoph. Even blokes who are part of a couple ttc can be shocked when they first find out. (My DP said '(expletive), how am I going to pay for all that?' and we'd been ttc for ages.) I would say his subsequent reaction is more important than the first thing he spits out. Talk to him again before you decide whether you want to keep him around or not. And if you need to, you can do it on your own - remember mumsnet . Congratulations btw.

divastrop · 14/09/2006 14:12

im not on my own any more but i was on my own for nearly 3 years with 3 and then 4 children.i undrstand ur frustration at him not understanding how pregnancy is dated,lets just say ive been in a similar situation.but everybody is different and maybe when it sinks in he will be happy about it.hopefully he has friends who have had children and understand more about it?

ProfYaffle · 14/09/2006 14:27

They predicted my dd at about 10lbs, also said she had a massive head. I had to have a late scan as she hadn't engaged and they were worried about her being able to pass through my pelvis. In the end I had a cs (nothing to do with her head or size) and she came out at 8lbs 4oz with a perfectly normal head!

ProfYaffle · 14/09/2006 14:28

Sorry - wrong thread! Don't know how that happened

Daisypops · 14/09/2006 15:14

Just to re-iterate what dogmum said, my mum and dad were trying for me and when my mum told my dad she was pregnant my said said 'well you want to think long and hard before you have this baby' needless to say my mum was left confused as they'd been trying! MY DP said allsorts when I told him I was pregnant, he soon came round and I expect yours will too. x

squishy · 14/09/2006 17:06

Did you speak to him today? Best of luck if it's still to happen. I hope he does sort out his head, remind him it's as much as a shock to you (more, in fact!) but as has been said, you will cope whichever way!

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megandsoph · 14/09/2006 19:20

Hi again

Ok have spoke to him briefly as he's about to jump out of a plane (seriously)

He just asked me if I would be safe to fly next friday when I come down to see him so that sounds positive unless I'm analyzing it wrong hmmm

Just thought, I didn't mention he is 300 miles away so this is an added worry.

Wow I can't belive all whos DH's reacted strange with discovering your PG's

thankyou for all being supportive.

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pennygaff · 14/09/2006 20:23

men go all over the place when you tell them your pregnant. I do think its quite common for a bloke to think at some point ..is it mine? whether they dare say it or not. They have to reassure themselves that its as good as you say it is, after all nothing has changed for them yet.
my DP spent a long time quite, then didn't really believe it till the scan, visual proof! now he's over the moon and insists on talking at my belly, and patting it.
Give your partner time to get used to it.

cece · 14/09/2006 20:59

I found rambling on about Dh 'super sperm' helped him cope with it all!!! LOL

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