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Pregnant with #2 and worried!

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KeepSmiling83 · 24/07/2014 08:36

I have just found out in pregnant with #2. I already have a gorgeous DD who has just turned 3. I am an only child and am really worried about how my little girl is going to cope with a brother or sister. She has obviously been the centre of attention for 3 years and is spoilt rotten by her grandparents (not in a bratty way but in that she has all the time/attention) and us. Is she going to feel pushed out? Will she hate us for having another baby? We had obviously thought about this before trying for a second baby but it seems much more real now.

I know lots of people have siblings but I'm really worrying about it. People say its lovely having a sibling but because I haven't got one I don't know what it is like! Anyone with more than one can tell me how good it is? I know it will be hard but overall has it been worth it?

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milkjetmum · 24/07/2014 08:50

Definitely worth it. Dd2 is 5 months old now. It took dd1 about 6 weeks to get used to her (had some regression/tantrums) but now it is wonderful to see them together. Dd1 makes dd2 laugh in a way we cant and dd2 is born into a world with an extra person loving her. Also, maternity leave has been a joy to spend more time with dd1 again, and have taken advantage of the time to do activities like swimming lessons etc. So yes, it will be ok.

Gen35 · 24/07/2014 09:22

There's a book called siblings without rivalry I'm getting, people have recommended it. Don't have high expectations about the initial adjustment - but also don't convince yourself it's a huge long term disaster based on that. I don't expect my dd to be excited initially and I've made it clear to gps that they need to focus attention on dc1 and not the baby initially. It can be lovely having a sibling, I've got 2 I'm fond of and also if/when they have kids it's a bigger network for your dd to tap into.

HenriettaMouse · 24/07/2014 10:54

My sister is one of my closest friends in life and it was brilliant to share growing up with someone. A sibling is a gift! She will be fine :-) Make sure they spend lots of time together and that she feels involved with her sister's care - get her to sit with you at bath times and read them both bedtime stories together, that kind of thing.

HenriettaMouse · 24/07/2014 10:55

Sorry - sister's or brother's!

Lalalax3 · 24/07/2014 12:43

I worry about how my child will cope with being an only child if we can't conceive a second! I think siblings are great for kids, watching them interact is lovely. My mum had me when my sis was three and she thought I was wonderful!

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 24/07/2014 12:54

I have a two year old and am 38 weeks with DC.2. There's a nice book called theres a house in my mummy, which we read to DS. We show him scan pictures and talk about the baby. I'm not sure how much he understands but we'll involve him as much as we can when baby is here, try and get him to help and buy him a present from the baby.

weebairn · 24/07/2014 13:39

I am 30 weeks with my second.

My 1.5 year old daughter spends so much time desperately trying to play with any children we meet… if I wasn't pregnant right now I would be really mournful about her lack of siblings…

She may be jealous at first and of course it will be disruptive and hard work but as an adult I adore my two brothers and still see them all the time socially, so I am so happy I am giving her the chance to have that.

From looking at my friends, once the kids are older they do play together and it's less important for you to be all-singing all-dancing entertaining mummy - which can only be a good thing!

I have also bought a couple of books which she is maybe a little young for - There's a House in my Mummy and My New Baby - also a doll which we are practising washing, changing nappies with, and breastfeeding! She is entranced by other babies we meet out, and I hope all will be well.

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KeepSmiling83 · 24/07/2014 13:55

Thank you for all the reassuring stories!

My DD loves children and babies and has in the past said she wishes she had someone to play with but obviously it's different when they're there all the time! I am a natural worrier/negative person so I always look on the downside I suppose.

She has always said she wants a little sister so in some ways I'm keeping my fingers crossed for another girl for her!

Keep the positive posts coming!

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weeblueberry · 24/07/2014 14:09

My 1.5 year old daughter spends so much time desperately trying to play with any children we meet… if I wasn't pregnant right now I would be really mournful about her lack of siblings…

Sorry OP I don't want to hijack your thread but I did have a similar question yesterday and the above comment has really put my own mind at ease. DD is 15 months and is so so keen to play with any child she comes across. Thinking of having someone to play with her and 'be on her side' when she's playing with other kids has made me feel a lot better. :)

MrsGiraffe12 · 24/07/2014 15:59

I'm pregnant with DC2 and my boy is 6 years old and as much as he's excited I'm worried he will be feeling pushed out after spending so much time alone with me and DH! In reality I'm sure all will be ok, there is 5 years between me and my younger sister and my dad says when she was born I adored her and couldn't do enough for her and told everyone I met very proudly all about my baby sister x

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